Marriages!!!

WHAT ADEBOYE IS NOT TELLING YOU ABOUT HIS OWN MARRIAGE!

The love story of @PastorEAAdeboye, General Overseer of RCCG popularly known as Daddy GO and his darling wife @PastorFAAdeboye is one that would go down in history as one of the most romantic love stories ever. PASTOR E. A. ADEBOYE has not only proved that having God at the centre of your life is key but he has also proved that real men still exist.

As they celebrate the faithfulness of God on their 49th anniversary this year. Here are 20 things you would never believe Daddy GO does:
• Adeboye married twice *surprise face* hahaha…not what you’re thinking. He had a traditional marriage first then a white wedding in church about two years after.
• Adeboye couldn’t afford a ring then but he promised his wife that she will never lack anything and has since kept this promise.
• When Adeboye could finally afford a ring, he refused to buy or wear one. He also mandated his last son, Leke Adeboye
, to do same.
• Adeboye wouldn’t eat food or drink anywhere his wife doesn’t approve first.
• Adeboye prefers his meals freshly cooked daily.
• Adeboye expects his wife to fast with him when he is fasting. (We guess this saves on food expenses lol)
• Adeboye eats dinner between 4-5pm and that’s it for the day.
• Adeboye sometimes goes into the kitchen to give moral support and taste the food. He also advices on which food needs more seasoning or salt.
• At least 3 times every year, Adeboye leaves his whole family for about 5 days, no phone calls, no sex, no distractions, even his wife is not allowed around him. (we all know whose face he goes to seek)
• Adeboye used to be a plus size man, until he started fasting heavily.
• Adeboye completely avoids fizzy drinks and ofcus as a child of God doesn’t drink alcohol. Now, he only drinks water, fresh fruit juice and teas.
• Adeboye would never leave Nigeria and is never more than a 2-hours’ drive or flight away from his wife on the month of her birthday. This is one of the promises he made to her when they got married.
• Adeboye still gives monthly household expenses fees to his wife till date. This even increases year by year as inflation goes up
• Adeboye also gives his wife monthly self-maintenance allowance (Don’t you want you some Adeboye?)
• When he is at home, Adeboye kisses his wife every morning and prays for her even before coming out to see anyone else.
• Adeboye always buys marching watches, suit cases. Everything he needs to get, he always makes sure to get her own version of it.
• Adeboye always puts his wife first before his children. Besides they will and have all left home anyways.
• Adeboye has never stopped appreciating his wife for her sacrifice over the years and putting her dreams on hold so he could become who he is today hence he never leaves her behind in anything and everything he does.

WOW! I bet you weren’t ready for these!!! Copied

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THE WOMAN:
As a woman, you are many things to your husband and as a man, there are 8 things you should be to your wife.
Don’t marry a man because of what he drives but what drives him
Seduce your husband. Don’t always allow your husband to ask for sex. As a woman your under wear should match
You must be a different woman to your husband every time. Be creative. Don’t be predictable. Give him what he wants.
Everyone woman has an influence. If you lose influence over your husband you have lost womanhood
You must learn to synchronize with your husband. Be part of his plans
Sex is not all about making children. Dress to please your husband
Don’t fix time to have sex with your husband. When a man is sexually satisfied he is emotionally stable.

As a woman you should invest in yourself spiritually so you can adequately support him. Build yourself as a prayer warrior so that you will not be forced to pray at the end of your life.
I agree with almost all but why must my husband provide for all my needs? Is he a money making machine?
Secondly, why cant I provide for my husband, afterall, iron sharpens iron, they say, if he can buy me something, I should be able to reciprocate, isn’t that romantic?

As a woman you are a helper!
The one who you are helping must be stronger than you! Once you are married, you are somebody’s helper and the helper is meant to have what the person’s need! As a wife, you are meant to surround your husband! Women are natural keepers; Men; take care of your wives so your life can be long! The woman is your helper. Treasure your wife, let her feel important!! Let your wife know that she is important. Women, you are your husband’s helper, stop looking helter skelter! You are there to help him and God will reward you.
As a woman, you are a builder!!
Proverbs 14:1- A wise woman buildeth her home! We need wisdom to build. You must know when to speak, when to keep quiet, when to comfort, when to build!
As a woman you are a servant!

Titus 2:4-5- These older women must train the younger women to love their husbands and their children, 5 to live wisely and be pure, to work in their homes, to do good, and to be submissive to their husbands. Then they will not bring shame on the word of God.
You are a cook, cleaner, laundry woman and nanny, lover, girlfriend, mother, playmate, home builder to your husband.

When last did you love him and lay his head on your chest? When last did you run up behind him and kiss him?
Once a bride, always a bride!! Stop calling him daddy or papa Joseph!! He is your husband! You are a servant, not a slave
12- You are an intercessor!
Prayer cover him, satan proof him, Delilah proof your husband! If God has blessed you with a husband, pray for him. The praying woman is a winning woman; at certain times, just pray for your husband!! No matter how happy you are in your marriage, never stop praying for your husband! In case you don’t know, some people are not happy that you are happy? That husband you think is useless, some people are queuing to marry him. Take care of your home; no matter where you go, come back to your home!

13- As a woman, you are a lover!
Some women forget that they are a lover! Every man is attracted by what he sees, while a woman is attracted by what she hears. That is how we are wired! If you are an old bride beside your husband, you will push him to a Delilah! The male species like variety, even Christian men can be tempted! Therefore, you must be many things to your husband! Become unpredictable in marriage! Wear your hair differently, dress differently!

You should have two types of nightwear, the general ones and the ones only your husband can see you in; you know what I mean. Lol. Look lovely for your husband; remind him of what he has. Make the room you share have a wonderful ambience!

Touch your husband! A woman needs 13 meaningful touches a day! Remain romantic! Don’t be an old ugly bride around your husband; walk hard to retain your shape! You must be romantic and spontaneous! Befriend your husband, if you don’t befriend him, you will wake up one day and find a huge emotional gap! Don’t let your ministry or career or business cause a rift between you.

14- As a woman you are a covering!
Look at Genesis 21:9-10
What a man can’t see, a woman can see! So, as a man learn to listen to your woman! Be careful when your wife warns you about a particular business or a friendship or woman, listen to her and try to understand her! Don’t tell your wife to shut up. As a woman, protect your husband, defend him!

15- You are a keeper, an assignment!
For example, he gives you sperm; you keep it, deliver a child and nurture that child! He tells you his vision, you keep it in mind and help nurture and bring it to pass.
May the lord give us Good understanding Amen.copied

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Don’t give up on your marriage.

What is that thing that is eating you up in your marriage that you think backing out is the only option. Don’t give in to the enemy. As long as you have breath, get on your knees and fight for your marriage. Kindly watch a movie called war room, Satan, the enemy of your marriage is hoping that you will get tired and give up and walk away. Let him know that you are a fighter, not a quitter and you will come out victorious.

Let him know that you will fight him to the gates of hell and back. Let him know that you’re a winner, not a loser. Don’t give the enemy hope. Speak life and expectation to your marriage. Tell your spouse, “Beloved, I am not going anywhere. I am here to stay. We will work things out together, and nobody shall come between us.

We will grow old together, Like a pair of scissors, we will work together and cut anything that tries to get between us. We will raise our kids together and we will grow old together.” We will build a good home together. The Bible says, “Resist the devil and he will flee from you. Write down your prayer request and always pray without season. Love your spouse unconditionally and don’t fail to always appreciate his or her effort no matter how little. And the good Lord will help you in Jesus name. Amen

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Please note that you can avoid adultery. It is within your power to do it, if you really mean it.
Carelessness is one of the major cause of affair in marriage not devil in the real sense of it as many people always claim when they fall into error. So follow the following simple rules you will never fall into adultery.

1: Never make anybody of the opposite sex your best friend with whom you share intimate discussions.

2: Never be with anybody of opposite sex at the time your spouse must never know you are there.

3 Never talk evil about your spouse in the presence of anybody,they will know you are not happy in your marriage and take advantage of that by showing you fake care and give you what you lack with your Spouse and destroy you.

4: be proud to use your wedding ring outside,let them know you are married and proud to be.

5: Never visit a website you will not be proud to tell your children and wife/ husband you visited.

6: Avoid keeping secrets from your spouse, AFFAIR
thrive in secrecy.

7: Avoid confiding in the people of the opposite sex, there should be somebody of your sex you can talk to,don’t dig the grave of your marriage with your mouth.

8: Avoid collecting unsolicited gifts and favour from opposite sex. They will ask for sex in return they are not Father Christmas.

9: Avoid thinking that anybody is better than your husband or wife you don’t know what their spouses are enduring at home,what you are seeing outside is just a show biz don’t be deceived. Grass is only greener in the other compound because it is far from you.

10: Divert all your sexual fantasy towards your spouse. He or she is planted in to your life to satisfy you and keep you holy.

11: Always remember that whatever every woman or man has in his or her body,your spouse has it too and they are not different from each other,it is only faces that are different it is the same package.

12: deal with any sexual thoughts that is not directed towards your spouse,kill it before it kills you. Sexual error do not begin in the bedroom,it begins in the heart.

13: if you are finding it difficult to deal with it,find a mature christian you can confide in and let the person pray with you,counsel you. Don’t die in silence.

14: before traveling have sex with your spouse and put your mind to it that you will not have sex until you come back,that decision may safe your life and destiny

15: Men, avoid looking at the front and back side or shape of ladies and imagine what is there, it is stupid, childish and dirty to do that, that is what is called lust, what is there is not different from what your spouse has, please don’t be stupid sir full of lust.

16: Walk in company with good and Godly men/women if you keep company with adulterer you will become adulterous.

17: Discuss your sexual desire with your spouse and let it be met at home,don’t hunt for something that will hunt you later and hurt you deeply tomorrow,your wife/husband has the best,get it at home.

18: fill your heart with the word of God always,this will not give lust a chance in your mind.

19:Memorize and Always remember Proverbs 6:32-33. “But whoso committeth adultery with a woman lacketh understanding: he that doeth it destroyeth his own soul. A wound and dishonour shall he get; and his reproach shall not be wiped away”.

20: Always count the cost of adultery, don’t just look at the pleasure,look at the pain,loss of integrity,how you will hurt your wife/husband ,children,friends and above all GOD the almighty.

21: Always remember that the enjoyment, pleasure and the thrills that is in sex is just for few seconds or minutes, it can not be more than that but its repercussions can last for eternity. Why trading eternity for few seconds, is there wisdom in that?

BE FAITHFUL TO YOUR SPOUSE AND YOU WILL BE GLAD
YOU DID. WHAT GOD HAS PUT TOGETHER LET NO MAN PUT ASUNDER!
(Share this until it gets to all married couples. You may be Saving a souls from sin and families from divorce and adultery).

Marriage!!!

1. Marriage is Teamwork. Marriage flourishes when both husband and wife understand that winning together is more important than keeping score.

2. Don’t give up on your marriage. Don’t give in to the enemy. As long as you have breath, get on your knees and fight for your marriage.

3. A successful marriage doesn’t require a bag of money, a big house, a prefect spouse, or a big expensive car. You can have all the above and still have a miserable and empty marriage. A successful marriage requires honesty, undying commitment and selfless love and Jesus at the center of it all.

4. For marriage to work, self must die. Anything that is done selfishly will separate you. Consider your spouse’s feelings, needs, desires, opinions, and preferences in your decision making.

5. Be grateful for the spouse that you have. Someone is fasting and praying for a spouse just like the one you have.

6. Telling your spouse where you are, who you are with and what time you are coming home is not hard — if you have nothing to hide.

7. Husbands: Your three primary responsibilities are (1) Family Priest (2) Family Provider (3) Family Protector. If you’re not yet ready or willing to shoulder one of these three, then you’re not ready for marriage.

8. Genuine apology is not just saying, “I’m sorry,” it must be accompanied by a change of behavior or attitude. Remember Marriage is an institution built by God, always invite him to your Home.

May God take control of every aspect of our Married lives!
Amen!!!

Share to bless other marriages.

MARRIAGE !!!!

When your wife loves, she loves you for real. When she loves you, she becomes happy, she becomes proud of you and she feels happy when talking to you… She will be friend with your friends and relatives, your likes will be her likes, she will change her life style to fit in yours.

No matter how much you disappoint her, she will forgive you before you apologize, yes, she loves you. She will try to be a little bit jealous and protective, because she wants you to be hers and only hers.
No matter how far or near you are, she will protect herself for you. She won’t mind, whether you give her Money or not, whether you are rich or not, cos her interest in you is your future not what you are now.
She will show you all her friends and relatives, because she’s proud of you! Look at that woman, her heart is made of Gold, so precious and full of love. She deserves to be treated as queen.

“Love! Her! Back! When your wife loves you, for Christ sake, love her back!!! Stay with her forever! Believe in her love, cos it’s the real deal!
Receive her love, cherish it, it’s God’s rare blessings on you, be bold to acknowledge your love in return, be explicit about it, it’s important! Let the world know you love her, n she loves you, Claim Your woman
Grow your love together, let it mature, fight for your love, believe in her innate goodness, don’t let anything or anyone taint her before you, don’t let them taint the color for love, don’t be selfish, thinking only from your angle. Don’t be that good man who only erred in love. If you failed at love, you failed in what counts most.
Don’t leave a wounded heart behind and go on to a happy married life with another. You are answerable before God.
Love her back! try, I know you can. copied. God Bless our Marriages.

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When it comes to marriages woman has the major roles to play, its only a foolish wife that will sit back and watch things go wrong in Her home. Its said that we ladies are powerful and we can take up any challenge when we set out heart and out mind to do it. We are specially created God. God has deposited in us versus that are beyond our imagination.

Every woman is powerful.
Every woman is a goal getter.
Every woman is an achiever.
Every woman is unique.

Never you underestimate the power of a woman because a woman is capable of doing anything and when she wants to Love she loves with the last breathe in Her and when She wants to deal with you Hmmm my brother you’re finished, When God created man He saw it and He knew it in His heart that man can’t survive alone on earth that was why He took something very special from a man to create a WOMAN.

We are the Helpers to our husband, its not because we want to be, that’s how God has made it. Take a very good look at some failed marriages today, 75% of them is because the wife’s refused to do nothing, she refused to stand up and fight for Her home. She refused to stand in the gap for Her Husband. We ladies are responsible for the building of our homes NOT our husbands.

If you want the best of your marriage you MUST get a woman who’s a goal getter,don’t rush into marriage because others are getting married or because you have money and you’re of AGE, Every wife should learn how to stand in space for Her husband, believe it or not we are the support buttons they need.

Don’t neglect Him because He’s not doing well now always remember that God has a special purpose for every marriage. Don’t be discouraged because of the situation He’s in right now just believe it in your heart that God who has began a new work in your home will perfect it until the coming of Jesus Christ.copied

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According to Pastor Khathide (Ugandan) A lot of people don’t associate sex with God – they associate it with Satan and darkness, as if sex is not holy.!! The bible is explicit when it comes to sex. Sex is holy within marriage, and there is no prescribed style. Nowhere in the Bible does it say that the missionary position is the only sexual style.

Not discussing sex in a relationship leads to divorce!! Pastor Khathide has counseled women who’ve complained: my husband treats me as if I were his brother. There was one who told him: I am tired of getting sex fortnightly, like a salary. Khathide told her she was lucky to be getting sex fortnightly, since some wives only get it on big days, like elections. Many husbands leave their wives to seek sexual pleasures elsewhere. Have you ever asked yourself what those women have that you don’t. Wives have become very frigid and even sleep with their panties. If you’re a married woman, you should sleep naked and let your bum touch your husband lol. Today you find men going out of their way to get a glimpse of a vagina. They page through magazines and even go to lingerie departments in stores hoping to see what’s hidden under panties because their wives hide it from them.

Marriage is about being free with your body in front of your partner. A woman should parade naked and do some modeling to tempt her husband. There are many married women who don’t know what their husbands’ penises look like. She only feels it when he enters her. They’ve never touched it, let alone seen it, because the husband switches off the lights before undressing. A penis is a wife’ s toy – she is supposed to play with it. He blames couples for not making time for sex and complaining about being tired after a day’s work. You find many couples who’ve been sexually starved for years. God created sex for procreation and also for pleasure. You can’t marry and not have a good time in bed. WHO SAID YOU CAN ONLY HAVE SEX AT NIGHT? Why can’t you drive home during lunch and have a quickie with your wife? We’ re all equal in sex – it’s not just about a woman satisfying a man. You have to satisfy each other.

Have you ever seen a woman who has been satisfied? Have u noticed how she glows and becomes energetic? May the Lord Bless you. This is the ‘Whole Truth, Nothing But The Truth. Once you read this you have to keep it going. Age has nothing to do with sex. The older u are the more u should enjoy it. Make sure your spouse reads this. Also Send to all your married friends, Grandmas & grandpas send it to your married children. You may just be saving a marriage from divorce. Peace be unto ur marriage let love n sex fill ur marriage in Jesus name,copied.

HARDCORE TRUTH ABOUT MARRIAGE!!! BY BISHOP DAVID OYEDEPO

1. Marriage flourishes when the couple works together as a team; when both husband and wife decide that winning together is more important than keeping score. Good marriages don’t just happen. They are a product of hard work.

2. Your children are watching you and forming lasting opinions on love, commitment, and marriage based on what they see in you. Give them hope. Make them look forward to marriage.

3. Husbands: The reason why other women look attractive is because someone is taking good care of them. Grass is always green where it is watered. Instead of drooling over the green grass on the other side of the fence, work on yours and water it regularly. Any man can admire a beautiful woman, but it takes a true gentleman to make a woman admirable and beautiful.

4. When a husband puts his wife first above everyone and everything except God, it gives his wife the sense of security and honor that every wife hungers for and it brings prosperity to the home.

5. A successful marriage doesn’t require a big house, a perfect spouse, a million dollars or an expensive car. You can have all the above and still have a miserable marriage. A successful marriage requires honesty, undying commitment and selfless love and Jesus at the center of it all.

6. Pray for your spouse every day; in the morning, in the afternoon and at evening. Don’t wait until there is a problem. Don’t wait until there is an affair. Don’t wait until something bad happens. Don’t wait until your spouse is tempted. Shield your spouse with prayer and cover your marriage with the fence of prayer.

7. The people you surround yourself with have a lot of influence on your marriage. Friends can build or break your marriage

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When you are tempted to speak hurtful words to your spouse during an argument, just walk away to another room, keep quiet; then force yourself to send a text to your spouse saying “I love you” even if you don’t feel love at the moment. Remind each other that love is greater than an argument.

Woman, when you feel tempted to fantasize how life with a wealthier man might be like; pick up your phone, call your hubby and tell him how great he is. Make your hubby great by standing by him and supporting him. The wealth you make with your hubby is more precious and fulfilling than the wealth you run of to an already made man.

When you are tempted to sex-text a person that is not your spouse; type down those words you wanted to text and send them to your spouse instead. Chat only with your spouse when your emotions seems to take its toll on you.

Man, when you are tempted to slap your wife or beat her up; use that energy to grab her and hug her instead, protect her, or walk away and do heavy duty work with your hands.

Woman, when you are tempted to tell your man how he is a good for nothing husband; remember all the good things he has done, the reasons you committed to him in the first place; remember that when you destroy him, you destroy yourself, when you build him you build yourself.

When you are tempted to abort your child, go online and google the great people who changed the world and contributed positively that were almost aborted

When an intruder tempts you by starting to flirt with you on Whats App, Facebook inbox, social media; reply by praising your spouse. Intruders destroy marriages because the married allow them and play along

When you are tempted to entertain an intruder who is not your spouse that is making advances on you, whether at work, in business or in the neighborhood, talk highly about your spouse, bring your spouse’s name in the conversation until you bore that intruder

Man, when you are tempted to look at the butt, boobs or body of other women; pick up your phone and look at the photos of your wife, look again at her smile, respect her. Your wife not only has butt and boobs, but her body carries the heart that loves you.

When you are tempted by friends to stay longer away from home, just go home; remember your friends may not be with you five years from now, because things change, but your spouse is committed to for life, your children will need you for life, family comes first

When you are tempted to talk badly about your spouse to your family, friends or outsiders, stop your tongue; instead, talk to God about your spouse in prayer.

When you are tempted to constantly fight your spouse in the house; play more worship music in the house. Worship music has a way of calming your spirit. The music you play sets the mood of the house

When you are tempted to question why you are still together; both of you list down the good things you see in each other, the value you have added to each other. Praise your love more than you complain

When you are tempted to compare your marriage with that of others; remember that marriages work because the two in it put effort. The couples you are admiring are simply just working harder at their marriage than you and your partner

When you are tempted to give up on your marriage; go back to your wedding photos, the video of your wedding day, your marriage vows; remember why you got married. People give up because they lose vision and purpose.

“Threatening divorce to scare your husband”
Do not casually use the word divorce. Do not use threats. Do not tolerate thoughts of ending your marriage lest you risk the danger of appearing irrational and indecisive. Every marriage will have its challenges but that doesn’t mean you toy with the idea of exiting it. If you do, divorce will actually be an irreversible reality.copied God bless your marriage.

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1. MEN! NEVER STOP COURTING. NEVER STOP DATING.
NEVER EVER take that woman for granted. When you asked her to marry you, you promised to be that man that would OWN HER HEART and to fiercely protect it. This is the most important and sacred treasure you will ever be entrusted with. SHE CHOSE YOU. Never forget that, and NEVER GET LAZY in your love.

2. PROTECT YOUR OWN HEART.
Just as you committed to being the protector of her heart, you must guard your own with the same vigilance. Love yourself fully, love the world openly, but there is a special place in your heart where no one must enter except for your wife. Keep that space always ready to receive her and invite her in, and refuse to let anyone or anything else enter there.

3. FALL IN LOVE OVER AND OVER AND OVER AGAIN.
You will constantly change. You’re not the same people you were when you got married, and in five years you will not be the same person you are today. Change will come, and in that you have to re-choose each other everyday. SHE DOESN’T HAVE TO STAY WITH YOU, and if you don’t take care of her heart, she may seal you out completely, and you may never be able to get it back. Always fight to win her love just as you did when you were courting her.

4. ALWAYS SEE THE BEST IN HER.
Focus only on what you love. What you focus on will expand. If you focus on what bugs you, all you will see is reasons to be bugged. If you focus on what you love, you can’t help but be consumed by love. Focus to the point where you can no longer see anything but love, and you know without a doubt that you are the luckiest man on earth to be have this woman as your wife.

5. IT’S NOT YOUR JOB TO CHANGE OR FIX HER.
Your job is to love her as she is with no expectation of her ever changing. And if she changes, love what she becomes, whether it’s what you wanted or not.

6. TAKE FULL ACCOUNTABILITY.
Take full accountability for your own emotions. It’s not your wife’s job to make you happy, and she CAN’T make you sad. You are responsible for finding your own happiness, and through that your joy will spill over into your relationship and your love

7. NEVER BLAME HER IF YOU GET ANGRY.
NEVER BLAME your wife If YOU get frustrated or angry at her, it is only because it is triggering something inside of YOU. They are YOUR emotions, and your responsibility. When you feel those feelings take time to get present and to look within and understand what it is inside of YOU that is asking to be healed. You were attracted to this woman because she was the person best suited to trigger all of your childhood wounds in the most painful way so that you could heal them: when you heal yourself, you will no longer be triggered by her, and you will wonder why you ever were.

8. ALLOW YOUR WIFE TO JUST BE.
When she’s sad or upset, it’s not your job to fix it, it’s your job to HOLD HER and let her know it’s okay. Let her know that you hear her, and that she’s important and that you are that pillar on which she can always lean. The feminine spirit is about change and emotion and like a storm her emotions will roll in and out, and as you remain strong and unjudging she will trust you and open her soul to you: DON’T RUN-AWAY WHEN SHE’S UPSET. Stand present and strong and let her know you aren’t going anywhere. Listen to what she is really saying behind the words and emotion.

9. BE SILLY.
Don’t take yourself so damn seriously. Laugh. And make her laugh. Laughter makes everything else easier.

10. FILL HER SOUL EVERYDAY:
Learn her love languages and the specific ways that she feels important and validated and CHERISHED. Ask her to create a list of 10 THINGS that make her feel loved and memorize those things and make it a priority everyday to make her feel like a queen.

11. BE PRESENT.
Give her not only your time, but your focus, your attention and your soul. Do whatever it takes to clear your head so that when you are with her you are fully WITH HER. Treat her as you would your most valuable client. She is.

12. GIVE HER SPACE.
The woman is so good at giving and giving, and sometimes she will need to be reminded to take time to nurture herself. Sometimes she will need to fly from your branches to go and find what feeds her soul, and if you give her that space she will come back with new songs to sing: Tell her to take time for herself, ESPECIALLY after you have kids. She needs that space to renew and get re-centered, and to find herself after she gets lost in serving you, the kids and the world.)
13. BE VULNERABLE.
You don’t have to have it all together. Be willing to share your fears and feelings, and quick to acknowledge your mistakes.

14. BE FULLY TRANSPARENT.
If you want to have trust you must be willing to share EVERYTHING: Especially those things you don’t want to share. It takes courage to fully love, to fully open your heart and let her in when you don’t know i she will like what she finds… Part of that courage is allowing her to love you completely, your darkness as well as your light. DROP THE MASK: If you feel like you need to wear a mask around her, and show up perfect all the time, you will never experience the full dimension of what love can be.

15. NEVER STOP GROWING TOGETHER.
The stagnant pond breeds malaria, the flowing stream is always fresh and cool. Atrophy is the natural process when you stop working a muscle, just as it is if you stop working on your relationship. Find common goals, dreams and visions to work towards.

16. DON’T WORRY ABOUT MONEY.
Money is a game, find ways to work together as a team to win it. It never helps when teammates fight. Figure out ways to leverage both persons strength to win.

17. FORGIVE IMMEDIATELY.
Forgive immediately and focus on the future rather than carrying weight from the past. Don’t let your history hold you hostage. Holding onto past mistakes that either you or she makes, is like a heavy anchor to your marriage and will hold you back. FORGIVENESS IS FREEDOM. Cut the anchor loose and always choose love.

18. ALWAYS CHOOSE LOVE.
In the end, this is the only advice you need. If this is the guiding principle through which all your choices is governed, there is nothing that will threaten the happiness of your marriage. Love will always endure.copied

*BRING SOMETHING HOME*

 

 

 

 

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I traveled with a brother and as we drew closer home, he called his wife giving instructions about what he wanted to eat for dinner: the quantity, quality and density. He omitted a recipe and called again adding to the menu. I asked him what he would be taking home for his family and he waived off the idea. I pulled into a mall and bought edibles to give his kids. He attempted to eat from them and I humbly gave him his size of “many stripes”.

My father used to trek long distances so he could save one naira to buy twelve wraps of groundnut at wholesale price when he returned home from work. He taught us, despite his poverty then, to always bring something home when we grow up!

What are you bringing home today? Some people bring aggression home as if it was their spouses or children that pushed their day southward. I once had a friend when we were younger, who used to run for cover with his siblings whenever the dad drove into the compound. For some, it was their mother! The party of freedom and excitement ended on the arrival of the mum.

Homes are not built with the gravels of terror. Your spouse and children prayed for your safe journey, missed your presence, hopeful that your contract would be approved, and all you could return with was ego and crumbs of sliced loaves of frustration which you snacked on. It’s not fair!

If you don’t have the tangibles to bring home, bring a smile, a hug, a hot kiss, a hi5, a funny story worth sharing, a thoughtful affection, a love letter! Copied

May GOD bless our homes

Invest in your child

Parenting can neither be delegated nor suspended for a while as we work for the ring of fame and fortune. The growth of children is irreversible. Like a young tree, it takes the bends directed by the gardener, so is the life of a child. You can’t shape it in adulthood; you can’t pick it from where you left after you reach at the top in your career pursuits. It’s always easier to model your kids than to rehabilitate when grown.

If you invest in your child, you don’t have to invest for your child. Children require presence not presents. No amount of gifts and meeting financial obligations can replace your personal presence. Any written will can be torn in a few years after the demise of the writer of the will. The only sure inheritance that you can leave behind is the investment you make in your child not for your child.

This message is for all the women

WOMAN. . . . . . . . .

When God created woman he was working late on the 6th day…….

An angel came by and asked.” Why spend so much time on her ?”.
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The lord answered. ” Have you seen all the specifications I have to meet to shape her?”…..
she must function on all kinds of situations….,
she must be able to embrace several kids at the same time,
give a hug that can heal anything from a bruised knee to a broken heart ,
she must do all this with only two hands,..”
She cures herself when sick and can work 18 hours a day”…. …

THE ANGEL was impressed. ..” Just two hands…..impossible !” ..

And this is the standard model ? ! ….”
The Angel came closer and touched the woman”…… ..
.” But you have made her so soft, Lord”…..
.” She is soft”, said the Lord,

” But I have made her strong. You can’t imagine what she can endure and overcome “…

.”Can she think?” The Angel asked…
The Lord answered. ” Not only can she think, she can reason and negotiate” …

The Angel touched her cheeks…..

” Lord, it seems this creation is leaking ! You have put too many burdens on her. ” …

.”She is not leaking…it is a tear” The Lord corrected the Angel…
” What’s it for?” Asked the Angel….. .

The Lord said. ” Tears are her way of expressing her grief, her doubts, her love, her loneliness, her suffering and her pride.”…

THIS made a big impression on the Angel,
” Lord, you are genius. You thought of everything.

A woman is indeed marvellous !”…. …

Lord said.” Indeed she is.
She has strength that amazes a man.
She can handle trouble and carry heavy burdens.
She holds happiness, love and opinions.
She smiles when she feels like screaming.
She sings when she feels like crying, cries when happy and laughs when afraid.

She fights for what she believes in.

Her love is unconditional.

Her heart is broken when a next-of-kin or a friend dies

but she finds strength to get on with life.” ..

The Angel asked : So she is a perfect ?

The lord replied : No. She has just one drawback

” She often forgets what she is worth”.

Send it to all the women u respect ….👍

And to all men who respect woman 👍👍
W O M A N..

● changes her name..

● changes her home..

● leaves her family..

● moves in with you..

● builds a home with you..

● gets pregnant for you..

● pregnancy changes her body..

● she gets fat..

● almost gives up in the labour room due to the unbearable pain of child birth..

● even the kids she delivers bear your name..

Till the day she dies.. everything she does… cooking, cleaning your house, taking care of your parents, bringing up your children, earning, advising you, ensuring you can be relaxed, maintaining all family relations, everything that benefit you.. sometimes at the cost of her own health, hobbies and beauty.

So who is really doing whom a favour?

Dear men, appreciate the women in your lives always, because it is not easy to be a woman.

*Being a woman is priceless*

Happy women’s week!

Pass this to every woman in your contact to make her feel proud of herself.

Rock the world ladies!

A salute to ladies!

WOMAN MEANS:-

W WONDERFUL MOTHER.
O OUTSTANDING FRIEND.
M MARVELLOUS DAUGHTER.
A ADORABLE SISTER.
N NICEST GIFT TO MEN FROM GOD.

 

Forward if u believe

A Recipe for Peace: “TWO WRONGS MAKE A RIGHT”*

There were two houses standing next to each other. In one of them resided a very unhappy family. The spouses yelled at each other, they fought and quarreled all the time. The other was a place of happiness and calm.

During one of the fights the wife asked her husband:
“Did you ever hear them quarrel or yell over at that house? No!
So, go there and see what they do to avoid it!”

The husband stood at the window of his neighbors and watched. There they were busy doing their own thing.

The wife was in the kitchen cooking, and the man sat at the table writing.
The phone rang, and the man jumped up and headed to the hallway to get it.

On his way he bumped into a vase, it fell and broke. He got down to his knees and started picking up the pieces. The wife ran into the room from the kitchen. She also kneeled down and started helping her husband to pick them up.

The man said to his wife:
“I am so sorry. I rushed to get the phone and bumped into the vase. It fell and got broken.”

The wife replied:
“No, honey, it is my fault. I put it there on the way. That’s why you bumped into it.”

They kissed, and that was over. Both got back to what they were doing.

The man who watched them returned to his wife. The wife wanted to know what the secret of their happiness was. What he said was fantastic:

*“I know it now. In their family they both are guilty and in our family both of us are always right!”*

That’s the secret of family happiness!

(Food for thought).
The “trick” isn’t in not wanting to take responsibility, but rather in not claiming right. There are times you need to forfeit your right to win your peace: depends on which you cherish most. This recipe is applicable, not only in the home, but also:

-at work
-on the road
-in the market place
-between nations.
-in all relationships.

Hope you’ll find this useful in the weeks/months and years ahead? Wishing you a meaningfully & peaceful day!

 

DECISION TIME

 

The type of people in your life has a lot to do in your journey of life. Start by screening the people in your life. Evaluating them will let you know who to upgrade, downgrade, or totally terminate.
Always remember that, not everybody deserves the special guest star to participate in the movie of your life. Anyone who is not adding any value to your life shouldn’t be in the front line of your life.
The dream of a sadist is for every body to be miserable in life.
Those who cannot see greatness in their own life will never see anything good in your own life.
Whoever sees or treats you as an option doesn’t deserve to be a priority in your life.
Never put temporary people in the permanent place of your life, and don’t be afraid of removing the wrong people from the right place of your life. If its your life then its your right.
Be bold to take any decision concerning your life. If they call it pride, tell them its class.
No matter the economy of the jungle, lions will never eat grass. Even if education is free, a rat will never go to the same school with a cat.
You can never go anywhere with negative people. Negative people are like cars without gas and engines. You can only sit in them, but they will never take you anywhere.
Always remember this: Never ever embark on a life journey with someone who is not going anywhere in life, or willing to add value to your life.
Wish you Happy Days ahead!

Push the Cow off the Cliff

Once upon a time in a faraway land, there lived a Chinese wise man and his disciple. One day in their travels, they saw a hut in the distance. As they approached they realized that it was occupied in spite of its extremely poor appearance.
In that desolate place where there were no crops and no trees,
a man lived with his wife, three young children and a thin, tired cow. Since they were hungry and thirsty, the wise man and his disciple stopped for a few hours and were well received. At one point, the wise man asked:
“This is a very poor place, far away from anything. How do you
survive?”
“You see that cow? That’s what keeps us going,” said the head
of the family. “She gives us milk, some of it we drink and some were make into cheese. When there is extra, we go into the city and exchange the milk and cheese for other types of food.
That’s how we survive.”
The wise man thanked them for their hospitality and left. When he reached the first bend in the road, he said to his disciple:
“Go back, get the cow, take her to the cliff in front of us, and push her off.”
The disciple could not believe what he was hearing.
“I cannot do that, master! How can you be so ungrateful? The
cow is all they have. If I throw it on the cliff, they’ll have no way to survive. Without the cow, they’ll all die!”
The wise man, an elderly Chinese man, took a deep breath
and repeated the order: “Go ahead. Push the cow off the cliff.” Though outraged at what he was being asked to do, the student was resigned to obey his master.
He returned to the hut and quietly led the animal to the edge
of the cliff and pushed. The cow fell down the cliff and died.
As the years passed by, remorse for what he had done never left the disciple. One spring day, the guilt became too much to bear and he left the wise man and returned to that little shack. He wanted to find out what had happened to that family, to help them out, apologize, or somehow make amends.
Upon rounding a turn in the road, he could not believe what his eyes were showing him. In place of the poor shack there was a beautiful house with trees all
around, a swimming pool, several cars in the garage, a satellite dish, and on and on. Three
good-looking teenagers and their parents were celebrating their first million dollars.
The heart of the disciple froze. What could have happened to the family? Without a doubt, they must have been starving to death and forced to sell their land and leave. At that moment, the student thought they must all be begging on the street corners of some city. He approached the
house and asked a man that was passing by about the whereabouts of the family that had lived
there several years before.
“You’re looking at it,” said the man, pointing to the people gathered around the barbecue.
Unable to believe what he was hearing, the disciple walked through the gate and took a few steps
closer to the pool where he recognized the man from several
years before, only now he was strong and confident, the woman was happy, and the children were now nice-looking teenagers.
He was dumbfounded, and went over to the man and asked:
“What happened? I was here with my teacher a few years ago and this was a miserable place.
There was nothing. What did you do to improve your lives in
such a short time?”
The man looked at the disciple, and replied with a smile:
“We had a cow that kept us alive. She was all we had. But one
day she fell down the cliff and died. To survive, we had to start doing other things, develop skills we didn’t even know we had.
And so, because we were forced to come up with new ways of
doing things, we are now much better off than before.”
Moral of the story: Sometimes our dependency on something small and limited is the biggest
obstacle to our growth. Perhaps the best thing that could happen to you is to push your “cow” down the cliff. Once you free yourself of the thought “it’s little
but it’s certain,” or of that idea “I am not doing great but there are people who are much worse than me” — then your life will
really change.

 

Dad, Show Your Children You Love Them

 

‘His father…Filled with love…ran to his son.’
Luke 15:20 NLT

Canoeing specialist Bill Havens was almost guaranteed to win a gold medal in the 1924 Olympics in Paris. But a few months before the games he learned that his wife would likely give birth to their first child while he was away. She told him that she could make it on her own, but this was a milestone Bill didn’t want to miss. So he surprised everyone and stayed home. He greeted his infant son, Frank, into the world on August 1, 1924. Though he always wondered what might have been, he said he never regretted his decision. He poured his life into that little lad, and shared with him a love for the rapids. Twenty-four years passed, and the Olympic Games were held in Finland. This time his son Frank was chosen to compete in the canoeing event. The day after the competition, Bill received a telegram from Frank that read: ‘Dear Dad, thanks for waiting around for me to be born. I’m coming home with the gold medal that you should have won.’ It was signed ‘Your loving son, Frank.’ Bill Havens wanted his family to know they always came first, no matter what. And that made him a hero to a little boy named Frank. Bill understood that medals tarnish, records are broken, and achievements are soon forgotten. These things don’t satisfy. What does? The love you have for your children, and the love they have for you. Jesus pointed out that even when a child is wayward, a parent’s love can restore them. Are you neglecting your family today? If so, take action immediately!

Bible in a Year: Ex 12-13; Matt 16

HER EXPERIENCE IN HELL

I was raped by a supposed friend (someone I thought I could trust). Left in shame and shock I could not tell anyone about my ordeal. I kept it to myself and went about my normal life.

Some weeks later after I came back from a vigil I started feeling weak so I went to a nearby hospital and ran some tests. To my greatest Shock I tested positive to pregnancy.

I told the man involved who after much plea convinced me to have an abortion which will be kept a secret.

I went in for an abortion however before the procedure I asked God to forgive me for what I was about to do and in the process I died, I left my body. Still looking at the lifeless form on the abortion table, I started ascending but in a flash a force pulled me down through a dark tunnel. I could not see the beginning or the end of the walls of the tunnel. It was dark, so dark, I saw cobweb like cells on the walls and in an instant I was in HELL.

I saw a woman who had been there for over a hundred years, she was in deep pain and agony, she would melt in the flames and the magma like liquid will come back together in the form of the woman. It occurred repeatedly. I knew I was in hell.

I began to burn and burn, I felt like pulling out my hair form its roots, because the pain was unbearable. It was as if my senses where magnified over a thousand times. The agony of the burns was not enough. The scream of people under the same torment was worse, it was so loud that I felt I would go deaf but they kept resonating in my ears.

I began to scream, the more I screamed the weaker I got but the screams only got louder while I was getting weaker. I gnashed my teeth but no form of all these expressions made me feel better…it only got worse, beyond description. I was in deep torment.

The worse feeling was not just the pain, the noise, the screams or the pungent smell. It was the feeling of HOPELESSNESS/TOTAL DAMNATION. I WAS CONDEMNED FOREVER. I knew I was in HELL forever and ever. There was no way out. I began to cry out to God for mercy.

At a point Jesus appeared and I wept the more. I asked Him to please give me one SECOND out of hell to just scream Jesus is Lord and die again. Jesus replied, “how many seconds are in a minute, how many minutes are in an hour, how many hours are in a day, how many days are in a week, how many weeks are in a month and how many months are in a year and how many years have you lived on earth?” I have given you all the seconds in your living years yet you failed me.

I wept more and asked Him to have mercy and please give me another chance to go and tell the world about HELL. I pleaded with the Lord to give me a chance even if I return to the world without my hands or my legs at least let there be breath in my nostrils. I had a better understanding of the adage that a living dog is better than a dead lion. I even promised to tell the world of my ordeal if He delivers my soul from the torment in HELL.

He replied,’ many have gone from here to tell them, what makes you think they will believe you but I kept pleading for a second chance and as I was weeping and gnashing my teeth.

Jesus had mercy on me but warned me sternly that if I did not preach I would end up in hell. He said, ‘tell my people to stop playing games with me’. At that point I woke up in the hospital room.

At first she I scared of sharing my horrific ordeal because I was concerned about my reputation but finally opened up when I came in contact with Dominion City under Pastor David Ogbueli’s ministration.

WHAT IS YOUR OPPORTUNITY COST?

If you are reading this post that means you have a chance to make a change and reconcile with God or if you are lukewarm it’s time to stop playing games with God.

Words alone cannot tell of my torment in hell or the torment of those in hell.

HELL is not a myth, a story, OR a figment of someone’s imagination, HELL IS A REAL PLACE.

A place you would not even wish for your enemies or those who have hurt you most.
(Heb 9:27 ~ And as it is appointed for men to die once, but after this the judgement.)
If we recognize that all earthly things are someday going to be stripped away from us, then the craving for material possessions will matter far less to us now. We should turn away from physical indulgence, for earthly pleasure leaves no permanent gratification.
(2 Peter 3:11 ~ Seeing then that all these things shall be dissolved, what manner of persons ought ye to be in all holy conversation and godliness)

– We should stop giving excuses for God’s work
– We should imitate Christ
– Find out our purpose on earth and fulfil it
– Be part of the move of God in this last days
– Have a consistent walk with the Holy Spirit .

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We wait on you Jesus

IF THERE IS ANYONE I WANT TO SEE AGAIN, IT IS THAT YOUNG MAN OF GOD WHO MADE ME LOSE THE GIRLFRIEND I LOVED SO MUCH.

She loved me to the point that she was ready to be disowned by her parents when they wanted her to marry a rich politicians son. The love was simply so much…She visited me for a weekend and I took her to a program in church where I was invited… The two guest speakers for the 1st and 2nd days were wonderful…We laughed and shouted Fire and even sowed seeds of greatness… And I took my girlfriend back to my house… But the guest speaker that came on the last day was the one that caused the whole program for me… He did not wear any big shoe or expensive suit… His hair cut was even scattered… Unlike other guests, he did not have any escort or security But I noticed that the moment he climbed the pulpit, the atmosphere changed…
He started singing this song: # “Something more than gold… Something more than silver…
The Word of God in the heart of a believer, it’s something more than gold”…# And within 5 minutes, I began to see something like mist, like thick cloud inside that auditorium… And it was as if, millions of voices were singing that song at the same time. It was not long, I began to hear cries of men and women, boys and girls…: and yet, he has not opened the Bible… The church hall was tensed… You will wonder if this is the same church we have been coming to for the past 2days…
“Lord, help me”…
“Forgive me Jesus… ”
” Don’t leave me this way”
“Jesus, I need You back… ”
” Holy spirit, break me… And use me… ”
These and more were the deep cries I was hearing from people around where I was sitting…
The choristers who were backing up the songs were slain…
Some of them did not know when they began to shout, through the microphone:” Lord, show me your mercy… “Some were shouting:” I need your revival Lord… Will you leave me this way”. I was afraid to open my eyes… The glory inside that house was too much… When i managed to open my eyes, I didn’t not see anybody standing… I was the only one on feet… The pastor that hosted the program was on the floor, in front of the church, with his wife… The assistant pastors were with him in front of the church, crying,… The Preacher was lying flat, crying on the alter… Nobody could know who was the Preacher and who was the speaker…As a Preachers kid, born inside the church, I have seen revivals… I have seen the move of God’s power… But, never in my life have I seem such manifest Presence of God…And for more than 1:45 minutes, people were rolling on the floor, crying their hearts out… Yet, the guest minister did not open the Bible… I was still standing, looking around for my girlfriend… But I did not see her again… When I went outside… I saw her, lying on the floor, flat, crying… As I tried to pull her up, thinking that something might have hurt her… I saw her blouses soaked with tears… Her voice was already cracked… She had cried her heart out…I did not care to wait for the service to close … I managed to guide her back to my house… And throughout that short journey, on the road, she was weeping like children… When we go home and she managed to sleep, right from her sleep, at short intervals, she began to sob, crying out from sleep… And before long, the pillow were already soaked…The encounter she had in the church followed her home… And it continued like that for 3days… She was unable to eat anything… One of those nights, as she was praying and crying, she began to burst into tongues… She was crying and was blasting tongues, for more than 4 hours… How can I forget? The morning of the 3rd day, she told me: “Iyke, when that young pastor was singing that song… My eyes was opened and I saw Jesus for the first time in my life… I saw the kind of splendor I cannot explain… I saw His wounds… I saw Him on the Cross… I saw Him calling me to surrender my life to Him… Iyke, something has happened to me… And I am no more that same person again”. The more I tried to cuddle her, the more she was running from my arms… She asked me: “Iyke, did you not feel what I felt? Did you not see what I saw? What I saw is worth more than the whole world. I saw a Crown that I cannot lose… Iyke, I have to surrender to Jesus… I have to pack my things now…” Before 30 minutes, she had picked her few things and about to go… As she was leaving, we both were in tears… She told me: “Iyke, I know I love you and you love me too…. But I have to let you go. This moment, I have surrendered to Jesus…. It will better to lose you than to lose that Crown that I saw. ..” Tears had dried on our bodies and fresh ones were coming. I could not even stop her… The girl I knew before had changed… Her face was radiant… It dawned on me that that young man of God has made me lose the girlfriend I loved so much…
And I was angry… As I roll from one part of the bed to the other, alone, inside my room, from morning till night… I began to blame myself for taking her along to that program… Don’t blame me… I was not born again then…Where else was I going to see another girl who will love me like her? I was furious… Yes, but deep down my heart, I knew that she has met God… I knew that this was exactly how it used to be in 1980s and 90s… On my own, I began to tel God: “If I will ever become a Preacher someday, this is the type I want to be… I will love people to come to my program and lose their girlfriends to You…” And thank God, in the fullness of time, when it pleases Him to intercept me from speedy journey to hell, I understood what happened those days to my ex girlfriend…Severally, I have seen that same thing she saw that made her lose me and not care about it.

Friend, if you see what she saw, you will never be afraid to lose any man…. Paul said that when he fell and stood up on his way to Damascus, ‘I saw no man’… Why are you afraid for us that we will starve if we continue with this ‘criticizing’ ministry? Why are you complaining that nobody will host us in his big auditorium and give us big honorarium Thanks for your concern brother man… But we can tell the whole world that ‘We too, like Apostle Paul, saw no man’… We did not see honorarium before we left all and embarked on this journey.. We saw a Crown that we must not lose on the last day…Many are already wearing their own crowns here… They have forgotten the encounters God used to give them when they first met Jesus… Lord, anybody can go… I don’t want to lose the glory you showed me! …We don’t need too many friends…We don’t need those who wants to show everyone that they are succeeding in ministry, even when, they are not known in hell… Our lives are better with fewer people whose eyes are still on that Crown…With the help of God, in our weaknesses and fewness, if it please God, we might be able to stop the mouth of lions…That was how that young man made me to lose my girlfriend.. My friends told me to give her some time that she will run back to me when memories of our sinful past will begin to hunt her…I waited for months and years, up till now, she did not come back… Together, with her husband, they are running a revival ministry in my country Nigeria… And she too is reading this post now as you are reading it… Haleluya!

Man of God, I don’t know the last time people listened to you and they went back and move their things out from their boyfriends house and that was their last days in sin? When was the last time you preached and boys called their girlfriends on the phone and told them: “It is over… I have met with Jesus…. And am gone”,? Your last crusade, you came back with car keys… Laptops, iphones and landed documents… But there was no tears for repentance… Sinners came as Sinners, sowed their seeds as Sinners and left as Sinners….When again are we going to see you preach and men will start falling over another, even without altar call, asking God for repentance for their adultery? Your choristers are already singing with sneered hearts… When are we going to hear somebody say about you, that: “This is that man of God that I heard and I left my sins and did not go back to them again? Sister, I don’t know what they are telling you in your church every Sunday… I know you want to shun your evil ways, but the church you submitted to seem not to have problem with your sinful lifestyle… From year to year, they don’t preach against sin…. Only giving you 100 ways to make wealth, even when you are sinking miserably in sin and addictions… The abuse of the gospel of miracle visa, miracle marriage, miracle contracts, and fighting of enemies is what brought this demonic wind upon us… Jacob had all those things and yet, he was crying to God for an encounter… And when He had it, that’s why we are still talking about him till now… Lock your self up this weekend and cry to God for that same encounter… If He has not shown up, don’t give up… If my ex girlfriend made up her mind to walk out from our relationship, there must be something she saw that’s worth more than me… Today, she is happily married with wonderful children… That God she saw that night has not failed her…
That thing she saw has kept her all these years… I know you are afraid of what will become of you when you cut some ties… Sister, stop playing church while you are feasting on your vomits…
It’s time to cry for an encounter… How long will you keep falling and rising and falling again?
It’s time to cry for just one touch of Fire,… Am sure heaven will not shun your wet eyes and torn lips…

Written By
Iyke Oriaku (The Revivalist)

Time is transcient

The time you have today will not always be there. Time is transient and it’s one of the true luxuries you can have; once lost, you cannot recover it back. Don’t wait till when you are old and far spent. Follow your dream, pursue your purpose and serve the Lord with your heart and strength. Stop the excuses. It is not about having time, it is about making time. If it is important, you will make time. Time is free but yet it is priceless. You cannot own time but you can use it thus, use it wisely. Don’t wait until regrets sets in.

An old dying man was taken to the hospital and got into a conversation with his doctor: “Doctor,” he called. “Don’t worry. I know I am going to die. I didn’t want to come here but they brought me here.

Please don’t worry about me, look at my hair, they are gone. I am so old but you are so young. I have learnt a lot from life, if you don’t mind I will tell you some of them before I die.

When I was 4 years, I use to think the world is about me. When I turned 14, I wanted to rule the world. I thought I would be the greatest man that ever lived. When I was 21, I wanted to be the richest man, when I was 25, I wanted to find love, when I was 40, I wanted to be helpful to everyone.

Now that I am here, I want to die. You see, I wanted so many things at so many times. Most importantly, I wanted to be happy. I thought the best way to be happy is to listen to others. When I wanted to enter the University, I wanted to study Zoology but everyone said I should study Engineering that I will be a great Engineer. So I listened to them. I had no one to pay my fees, I had to work and also pay my fees.

In my third year, I couldn’t cope with my studies, I had to drop. When I dropped, the same people told me “you should have studied Zoology”! When I turned 28, everyone said I should marry. That I needed a wife. So I listened to them, I got married. 6 years into the marriage, I caught my wife sleeping with my neighbor. I asked her why and she slapped me. I was angry and didn’t say anything. The next day I returned from work, she had run away with my children, now I am dying a lonely man. At 40, I got a huge contract. My name was in the news. The next day, all my friends and families were at my house, everyone had a serious problem.

Within one week, I spent all the money on them with the promise that they will pay back. I could not complete the contract because they refused to return the money as promised. So I was sent to jail for 6 years. I stayed in jail and I came out. When I came out, they were nowhere. There was one mistake I made through all this time. Now it is clear to me. Let me tell you about it. I refused to listen to myself. I ignored my own self and listen to others. Now that I am here, the only person that is with me is I.”

Let me make it clear, there is nothing wrong in listening to others but this you must do with the right kind of people. It is wise to seek right counsel but it is very dangerous to ignore your own self. It is very dangerous to refuse to pay attention to your heart.

Take out time, sit down, Close your eyes if you want or open it if you choose, then talk to yourself, reason with yourself. You can walk down the road alone and as you walk, begin to talk to yourself. The only person that can overrule you is God, after God, listen to yourself next. Don’t let the robbers of time and destiny put a lid over your life.

God has made the provision; you can be all that He has created you to be. Your life is a result of your choices. Make the right choice and with the help of the Lord you will experience the glory of the Lord in the land of the living. Do what you love to do and if God gives you a second chance at something please don’t waste again.

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My wish for you

A woman came out of her house and saw 3 old men with long white beards sitting in her front yard. She did not recognize them. She said “I don’t think I know you, but you must be hungry. Please come in and have something to eat.”

“Is the man of the house home?”, they asked.

“No”, she replied. “He’s out.”

“Then we cannot come in”, they replied.

In the evening when her husband came home, she told him what had happened.

“Go tell them I am home and invite them in!”

The woman went out and invited the men in”

“We do not go into a House together,” they replied.

“Why is that?” she asked.

One of the old men explained: “His name is Wealth,” he said pointing to one of his friends, and said pointing to another one, “He is Success, and I am Love.” Then he added, “Now go in and discuss with your husband which one of us you want in your home.”

The woman went in and told her husband what was said. Her husband was overjoyed. “How nice!!”, he said. “Since that is the case, let us invite Wealth. Let him come and fill our home with wealth!”

His wife disagreed. “My dear, why don’t we invite Success?”
Their daughter-in-law was listening from the other corner of the house. She jumped in with her own suggestion: “Would it not be better to invite Love? Our home will then be filled with love!”

“Let us heed our daughter-in-law’s advice,” said the husband to his wife.

“Go out and invite Love to be our guest.”

The woman went out and asked the 3 old men, “Which one of you is Love? Please come in and be our guest.”

Love got up and started walking toward the house. The other 2 also got up and followed him. Surprised, the lady asked Wealth and Success: “I only invited Love, Why are you coming in?”

The old men replied together: “If you had invited Wealth or Success, the other two of us would’ve stayed out, but since you invited Love, wherever He goes, we go with him. Wherever there is Love, there is also Wealth and Success!!!!!!”

MY WISH FOR YOU…
-Where there is pain, I wish you peace and mercy.
-Where there is self-doubting, I wish you a renewed confidence in your ability to work through it.
-Where there is tiredness, or exhaustion, I wish you understanding, patience, and renewed strength.
-Where there is fear, I wish you love, and courage.

You have two choices right now:
1. Click this off
2. Invite love by sharing this story with all the people you care about.

I hope you will choose to do so. I did.
A dozen angels sent to you,

Seek God while he may be found

It’s been a long time I have kept this to myself but I think it is time for me to tell this story. He said. Please read, so it won’t happen to you too.
It all happened on sunday morning; it rained the previous night.
I slept late on Saturday night and thus, woke up late. My church service starts by 8am but when I opened my eyes, it was exactly 8:12 am.
I sprang up from my matress, removing my blanket as quickly as I can and didn’t even bother to bathe. Brushing my teeth within ten seconds, I wore my already pressed clothes and ran off to church.
My roommate was still sleeping but I didn’t think he planned going to church at all. So without saying goodbye or waking him up, I left the room.
When I stepped out, I saw some young students of the fellowship who meet in front of my hostel. They were just setting up in preparation for their service. I think they start theirs around 9am.
The way the weather was, with the clouds dark and heavy, everywhere looked gloom and quiet but in my hurry, I took no time to observe or relish the remarkable atmosphere.
As I walked and ran on the tarred narrow road, just some distance from my hostel, I saw two girls sitting on a pavement and crying. They were dressed for church but with the way they sat and clinged to each other, weeping, I doubt if they would still go to church that day.
Though many passers-by like me walked and paused to stare at them, they were clearly unconcerned. They cried uncontrollably that even their shouts of pain made my heart flutter.
I thought about going to them and trying to console them but I was late for service myself.
My conscience tortured me a great deal but when I glanced at my wristwatch, it was already 8:32 am.
‘I am late. I have to go’. I told myself as I continued on my path.
Well, after few minutes, I made it to church eventually.
Except for a guy I saw who rested his head against a wall by the road, I didn’t notice any other strange thing till I got to church.
But when I entered the church, it was another sight I beheld.
The backdrop of the altar and the designs of the pulpit and walls of the venue were already set up but I didn’t see the Pastor.
In fact, I didn’t see any of the church leaders.
The church was scanty.
Except for two ushers and three choristers I saw, most of the workers I knew were not present.
There were some members present though. But every single person in the building was looking lost. The brother beside me was even shedding tears without crying.
I too was getting afraid.
And then all of a sudden, a lady cried out just behind me.
It was so sudden and the sound was so laced with pain and fear that I was afraid the worst had happened.
This is when I dropped my Bible on a chair and had a deliberate look of the whole church.
In the left corner of the front which was designated as choir stand, three sisters placed their heads on the table in front of them; shaking their heads and body in that manner some people do when praying silently.
Just behind them was yet another sister who sat on the bare floor, with one of her shoes nowhere near her. Even her scarf was hung around her neck.
I recognized the sister.
She led choruses in the evening service we had the previous Thursday.
But now, the sweet voice I heard has turned to a painful mutter of incomprehensible words. She held on to the corner of a table with her two hands, and wept as she said things I didn’t understand.
At this point, I knew this could only mean one thing but I didn’t want to believe it. I couldn’t just bring myself to believing it.
I couldn’t.
I was still pondering on what all these mean when an older man sitting two chairs before me stood up suddenly and shouted with a voice crackled, broken and almost lost.
‘Lord God! Please have mercy!’
By now, my heart was heavy and I could not explain a certain fear that clinged to my heart.
To remove all doubts, I approached one of our ushers so I can ask for explanations. I almost stopped in my stride as I became afraid of what his answer might bid for me.
I walked to the rear of the church and stood in front of him but he didn’t even take notice.
His eyes were opened, he was looking at me but with his empty and hopeless gaze at nothingness, I realized he was looking through me.
I called at him and touched the shoulder of his right hand before he blinked and looked at my face.
‘Please Bro Paul what is happening today? Is the service elsewhere?’ I asked with a voice fearful and low.
The usher dropped his eyes from looking at me and shook his head.
New tears began to streak through the corner of his eyes and his lips shook as he tried to hold himself from complete breakdown.
He raised his head again and returned his eyes, with tears, to me.
He started to speak but lost his voice again.
‘My brother…’ He finally managed to say.
He held his very wet handkerchief to his face as he tried to stop the infinitely-flow
ing tears.
Then he heaved so deeply I thought I heard his lungs relax.
‘Bro Victor…’ He started again amidst silent sobs.
‘…we are lost. The Rapture has happened. We are doomed for life.’
Though I knew all along this would be the news, hearing it with my ears broke my heart. I mean I felt it in my heart. My heart sank, ached and broke.
I staggered and almost lost balance as I moved backwards, trying to hide from the weight of the news; trying to escape from the impending doom the usher pronounced.
But he wasn’t done.
The usher released all the pent up tears of anguish and pain he has bravely been holding back and cried with all his might.
All I could make out from his voice was ‘God, Please. God, Please’.
He said it over and over again amidst sobs and cries.
As if to really show he was really desperate, Bro Paul threw himself on the ground and prostrated full with his two hands clasped and his eyes looking to the heavens.
He begged God again and again, asking for mercy and pleading for another chance.
He cried and wept continously and when he couldn’t say anymore, he just lied there and cried.
By now, I had managed to sit down on a bench placed behind the church as I looked around in unbelief.
I didn’t shout or cry at first. I just sat there looking around with tears already blocking my visions. My nose became clogged with phlegm and my throat was dry.
With tears flowing down my cheek, I raised my hand to my mouth as I tried to hold myself from weeping.
But it did no good.
I cried, cried and cried quietly, still with my hand holding back my mouth from releasing my voice with the pain and regrets it held.
Many thoughts crossed my mind- the fire of hell, the great tribulation, the suffering that awaits and many others but only one stayed.
I realized I would be alone in the world now.
My mom would be gone. My dad would be gone. All my sisters and brothers would be gone. While only I remained just because I found pleasure in sin.
The sudden loneliness this realization brought to my heart crushed it forever.
I dropped my hands from my mouth and cried.
Oh! I cried like I never did.
I wept and called out to God to forgive me but even I knew I was lost forever.
‘Had I know! Had I know!’ The thought tortured me.
Liquids dropped from my nostrils and tears from my eyes, a heavy ache hammered at my chest as I cried again and asked to be forgiven of all my sins but even then I knew there is no respite for me.
In the blur of my vision, I saw the sister-chorister still kneeling and recognized her voice as she sang that hymn of warning we always sang in our church.
With her broken voice, sobs and tears between the words of the song, she added more pain to my already damned soul.
‘…oh! what a weeping and wailing
As the lost were told of their fate
They cried for the rocks and the mountains
They prayed but their prayer was too late…’ She sang on and on.
The song had no melody this time, just sorrow.
I stopped my ears with my hands and refused to hear more but the lyrics taunted me still.
I knew all my prayers were useless but I anguished and cried to God more loudly.
It was in the middle of this other round of hopeless tears and prayers that I laid my head on the table and slept for sorrow.
When I woke up, I was on my bed, back in my room.
My pillow and cover-cloth were soaked in my own tears. Though I wasn’t wearing any clothes, I was covered in sweat.
I searched for my phone and glanced at the clock.
It was 4.22am.
I had barely slept for three hours.
I realized It was all a dream but the relief that filled my heart was swiftly replaced with a great fear.
I stood up from my bed and looked around but nothing seemed out of place.
I saw my roommate still sleeping with earphones still plugged to his ears.
I looked outside and saw it was indeed darkest in the dawn.
Having made sure I was still safe and not lost yet, I knelt beside my bed, used my pillow to cover my mouth and cried in desperate prayers.
I prayed to be saved before it is too late. I knelt that way, weeping and asking God for mercy until I slept off.
And indeed when I woke and looked at my time, it was 8:12am and I was late for church…
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This story was written to give warning to all who woke up today with breath still in their nostrils and words still in their mouth.
Seek God while He may be found. Call upon him while he still listens. Make your ways right with God before it is too late and you are lost forever.
The pain I tried to write into this fiction is negligible when compared to the pain that awaits all those who miss the rapture- or die without salvation.
You have a chance today. Take it. Repent and be saved.

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Divorce your past

preserved your dignity by not making a scene and gave you two choices. its either hers or every other random girls’.

You have got to divorce your past.

Thats where a good number of us fail. The old habits you developed before coming to the understanding of the meaning and purpose of marriage VS your new status and its responsibilities are entirely two different things and you might have taken some old hurtful habits into your marriage claiming either that you cannot change / thats the way you are / she either take it or leave it / all men are the same deal with it, promiscuity, a singular, self-centered approach to putting the past behind me, childhood addictions, youthful exuberance and conducts that are not compatible with the present realities. Your wife’s shoulders were not built for your unhealthy past. You would crush her under the weight of your past because one woman cannot keep up with the performance of several. She was never built with those kinds of shock absorbers, and truthfully, God never intended her to.

The premium package you purchased cost more. Marriage is expensive not just on the pocket but also on the person. You have got to divorce your past. That is the greatest sacrifice any man can make for his woman.

You must sign the divorce papers for everything that has the potential to jeopardise this premium package deal.

Divorce your past and enter into a future a like brand new man/ woman.

How bad do you want it?

How much are you willing to let go of?

Will you sign those divorce papers?

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Godly Character 11

Esther was an orphan and a slave but she manifested a good character, and everybody loved her on the spot, your character determines your favour, if you lack favour, find out your character? what is your character, there are people in this world today, they don’t need to look for people before people looks for them, they have a very pleasant personality, you hang around them once and you want to hang around them again, can somebody look at your lifestyle and say because of you I will give my life to Christ. Joseph went through the pit and the prison but he arrived at the palace because of his Godly character. The only thing that can give glory to God is to win souls for him, the Bible said for each one that repent genuinely there is a great joy in heaven.

You need this godly character to make you a voice and an influence, The greatest gift you can do for God is to bring life up for him, A Christian without influence is a liability to the kingdom, he or she cannot preach to somebody to change, and cannot have a positive influence to the family, place of work and among his friends, any Christian without influence is an extra cargo for heaven, he or she is a weight for the kingdom, he or she is an insult to heaven, he or she is like a child that is bringing bad name to the family, that is why we have the word of God giving exceeding great and precious promises so we might be partakers of the divine nature, It was character that gave Daniel position and influence over the whole empire.

Can you pray this day that you are going to move into the realm of Godly character that will position you to where you belong? From Pastor Paul Enenche.

God bless you

Seven Leadership Principles to learn from an Eagle..

(1) Eagles fly alone and at high altitudes.
They don’t fly with sparrows or other small birds.

Stay away from (narrow minded people) sparrows and ravens, those that bring you down.
Eagles fly with Eagles. Keep good company.

(2) Eagles have an accurate vision. They have the ability to focus on something as far as 5km.
No matter the obstacles, the eagle will not move his focus from the prey until he grabs it.

Have a vision and remain focused no matter what the obstacle and you will succeed.

(3) Eagles do not eat dead things. They feed only on fresh prey.

Do not rely on your past success, keep looking for new frontiers to conquer. Leave your past where it belongs, in the past.

(4) Eagles love the storm. When clouds gather, the eagles get excited. The eagle uses the storm’s wind to lift it higher. Once it finds the wind of the storm, the eagles uses the raging storm to lift him above the clouds. This gives the eagle an opportunity to glide and rest its wings. In the meantime, all the other birds hide in the leaves and branches of the trees.

Face your challenges knowing that these will make you emerge stronger and better than you were. We can use the storms of life to rise to greater heights. Achievers are not afraid of challenges rather they relish them and use them profitably.

(5) When a female eagle meets a male and they want to mate, she flies down to earth with the male pursuing her and she picks a twig. She flies back into the air with the male pursuing her.
Once she has reached a height high enough for her, she lets the twig fall to the ground and watches it as it falls. The male chases after the twig. The faster it falls, the faster he chases until he reaches it and has to catch it before it falls to the ground, then bring it back to the female eagle.

The female eagle grabs the twig and flies to a much higher altitude, and then drops the twig for the male to chase.
This goes on for hours, with the height increasing until the female eagle is assured that the male eagle has mastered the art of picking the twig which shows commitment, then and only then, will she allow him to mate with her!

Whether in private life or in business, one should test commitment of people intended for partnership.

(6) Eagles prepare for training. They remove the feathers and soft grass in the nest so that the young get uncomfortable in preparation for flying.

Leave your comfort zone, there is no growth there.

(7) When the Eagle grows old, his feathers become weak and cannot take him as fast and as high as he should. This makes him weak and could make him die. So he retires to a place far away in the mountains.
While there, he plucks out the weak feathers on his body, and breaks its beak against the rocks and claws until he is completely bare; a very bloody and painful process. Then he stays in this hiding place until he has grown new feathers; a new beak and claws; and then he comes out.

We occasionally need to shed off old habits no matter how difficult, things that burden us, or add no value to our lives.

Yes eagles never give up …

Be an Eagle….Never give up!!

NEVER GIVE UP ON GOD, NEVER GIVE UP ON YOURSELF.!!!

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If I’ve learned anything from life, it’s that sometimes, the darkest times can bring us to the brightest places. I’ve learned that the most toxic people can teach us the most important lessons; that our most painful struggles can grant us the most necessary growth; and that the most heartbreaking losses of friendship and love can make room for the most wonderful people.

I’ve learned that what seems like a curse in the moment can actually be a blessing, and that what seems like the end of the road is actually just the discovery that we are meant to travel down a different path. I’ve learned that no matter how difficult things seem, there is always hope.

And I’ve learned that no matter how powerless we feel or how horrible things seem, we can’t give up. We have to keep going. Even when it’s scary, even when all of our strength seems gone, we have to keep picking ourselves back up and moving forward, because whatever we’re battling in the moment, it will pass, and we will make it through.

We’ve made it this far. We can make it through whatever comes next

It’s a MUST read for self development!

 

1. Make friends with successful people and occasionally buy them gift and surprise them with lunch because successful people always give and hardly get, so when you give them, they value the gift a lot.
2. Get a mentor and follow his instructions and respect the relationship. Never beg your mentor for money or disrespect his or her privacy.
3. Make new positive friends as often as possible and ensure you keep the communication line open.

The Holy Alphabet… This is Beautiful.

Whoever came up with this one must have been filled with the Holy Spirit!
A lthough things are not perfect,
B ecause of trial or pain,
C ontinue in thanksgiving
D on’t even think to blame .
E ven when the times are hard,
F ierce winds are bound to blow,
G od is forever able
H old on to Jesus .
I magine life without His love,
J oy would cease to be,
K eep thanking Him for all the things
L ove imparts you to see.
M ove out of Complaining ‘,
No weapon that is known
O n earth can yield the power
P raise can do alone.
Q uit worrying about the future,
R edeem the time at hand,
S tart every day with prayer
To ‘thank’ is God’s command.
U ntil we see Him coming,
V ictorious in the sky,
W e’ll run the race with gratitude,
X alting God most high.
Y es, there’ll be good times and yes some will be
bad, but…
Z ion waits in glory…where none are ever sad!
The one who kneels to the Lord can stand up to
anything..
Love and peace be with you forever, Amen.
Pls: GOD LOVES YOU…PASS THE WORD ON TO
MORE FRIENDS AND ASK THEM TO CONTINUE
TELLING OTHERS THAT GOD LOVES THEM AND
HIS SON IS THE ONLY WAY TO SALVATION TOO.
JUST THINK OF HOW MANY PEOPLE THAT
COULD BE REACHED OUT AND BLESSED WITH
THESE WORDS.