PARENTAL BLESSING

Who so curseth his father or his mother, his lamp shall be put out in obscure darkness and his inheritance may be gotten hastily at the beginning, but the end thereof shall not be blessed. It may look like it is working for you now, but the end thereof shall not be blessed. But an upright man’s end shall be peace. You are living a lavish life but your parents are sleeping on mats, struggling for what to eat. That it is not well with some people in life is not because the devil is especially interested in them, but it is because of how they are treating their parent and parent In-law. Parents carry blessings which is called “parental blessings”. This blessing cannot be gotten from anywhere except from your parents.

Wife! Do not forget that without your In-law, your husband would not be married to you now, and do not forget that you are also going to give birth to a son and that these things are going to be reciprocated. You may be young today, but you will be old tomorrow. The same way you are talking about that old woman, that is the same way these children will be saying ‘this old woman. The best way to enjoy your in-laws is to show them love, befriend them, and do them good. But if the moment you stepped into that man’s life and he becomes a different person, his family doesn’t know him again, and he doesn’t remember them again. The family will blame you because it was at the point of your arrival that everything changed. Show yourself friendly to your in-laws so that when you need them, they will be there for you. ‘Somebody may say that his/her father is already dead so that is not his /her business. That’s a lie. Look for the oldest person and make him your father. Take care of him/her as you would your father/mother., because there is a blessing these people are carrying for you, and it is called ‘parental blessing’. You need it.

When Esau lost it, Esau wept bitterly. Because he knew that his life was finished without that parental blessing. He said ‘oh my father do you have only one blessing? Please bless me also. Bless me for I do not want to be a frustrated man.’ If that blessing was not important, then Esau wouldn’t have cried so much. So many people do not care about their parents. The parents undergo hardship and just say: ‘oh Lord, judge between me and my son.’ That is enough to end your destiny. This curse can be reversed on the prayer altar. Jacob was under a curse for 21 years. He was laboring under this curse for 21 years. But one night the bible says he was left alone. He engaged a prayer altar and his prayer was: ‘I won’t let you go unless you bless me.’ The opposite of curse is bless. God reversed Jacob’s curse and from that day, Jacob’s fold started multiplying. Jabez also. The curse his mother placed on him, Jabez reversed it on the prayer altar.

Take your time, pray unto God to help you avoid this curse and if you find yourself doing any of the things mentioned above, stop and pray to God to turn this curse round into a blessing. Amen.

Thanks to Ben Howard for this piece

Stop the fighting, stop the rage
It’s a brand new day so turn the page.
Disagree and speak your mind,
But don’t do harm or be unkind.

The world grows evil on its own
You can’t take back a stone that’s thrown
So plant a seed of love today
Show that there’s a better way

Seek through peace a common ground
In God the answers can be found
Let your light shine bright, make it glow
Let your cup be filled and overflow

Look to encourage, not intimidate
You can’t show love while spewing hate
Before you point out a speck in their eye
Be conscious in yours a tree you may find

Only look down to reach out your hand
To comfort the fallen, help them to stand
Give of yourself, don’t expect a return
Flames of compassion forever to burn

Be humble yet strong, soft but not weak
A mirror of Christ for others to see
Only one life are we given to live
Let’s let go of the hatred & learn to forgive

 

Think positive, Think productive.copied

If you think you’re beaten, you are,
If you think you dare not, you don’t
If you like to win but think you can’t,
It’s almost certain you won’t.

If you think you are outclassed, you are,
You’ve got to think high to rise,
You’ve got to be sure of yourself before
You can win a prize.

Life’s battles don’t always go
To the stronger or faster man
But soon or late the one who wins
Is the one WHO THINKS HE CAN!!!

 

COMMANDMENTS YOU SHOULD KEEP IF YOU WANT A HAPPY RELATIONSHIP

Every relationship has issues but the difference between happy relationships and the rest is the way these obstacles are handled.
Below are 8 commandments you should keep if you want a happy relationship
1. YOU SHALL NOT BOTTLE UP FEELINGS
Occasional arguments are part and parcel of every healthy relationship. Arguments in relationships are definitely okay but how you handle these arguments and repair communication says a lot about the health of your relationship. Couples in happy relationships do not bottle up feelings because they understand it can destroy a relationship.
2. YOU SHALL ACCEPT YOUR PARTNER’S QUIRKS AND DIFFERENCES
While tolerance in a relationship is an important ingredient, accepting your partner’s quirks and differences instead of tolerating them would help you build a happy relationship. To create a happy relationship that will last, you have to celebrate the similarities and differences you share with your partner.
3. YOU SHALL LISTEN TO YOUR PARTNER
While it’s really important to talk about your wants and needs in a relationship, taking time to listen to your partner is also very important. The secret to building a happy relationship is listening to each other and trying to understand your partner’s wants and needs.
4. YOU SHALL BE HONEST AND TRUSTWORTHY
You can’t build a happy relationship if you can’t be trusted. Honesty and trust can make your relationship solid and stand the test of time. We all want a partner that we can trust.
5. YOU SHALL COMPROMISE
You can’t build a happy relationship that will last if you are not willing to succeed. The secrets of couples in happy relationships is their ability to change and accommodate their partner. Happy couples don’t try to prove their partner wrong; they instead try to find a middle ground both can coexist comfortably. The ability to adapt is needed if you want to build a happy relationship.
6. YOU SHALL BE CONSIDERATE AND SHOW GRATITUDE TO YOUR PARTNER
Happy couples are always considerate and show gratitude to their partner for the little things they do and for also being who they are. Not showing gratitude can build a disconnect between you and your partner.
7. YOU SHALL ALWAYS KEEP IN TOUCH
Happy couples value their time with their partner and try to create time for their partner. For a relationship to succeed, you and your partner need to put in work. You have to keep in touch with your partner regularly. Enjoy each others company when together by telling a joke, playfully teasing your partner or enjoying a ridiculous conversation.
8. YOU SHARE KEEP YOUR RELATIONSHIP PRIVATE AND AVOID OVER-SHARING
Social media is an important part of our lives today but if not used properly can destroy our relationship. To build a happy relationship, you need to stop making your relationship a subject for public debate. Learn to keep things between you and your partner. What happens in your relationship isn’t for public consumption and that public includes your family and friends.by Paul Godwin S.

Beautiful Poem..

THE WORLD IS MINE
(Author Unknown)

Today, upon a bus, I saw a very beautiful woman
and wished I were as beautiful.
When suddenly she rose to leave,
I saw her hobble down the aisle.
She had one leg and used a crutch.
But as she passed, she passed a smile.
Oh, God, forgive me when I whine.
I have two legs; the world is mine.
I stopped to buy some candy.
The lad who sold it had such charm.
I talked with him, he seemed so glad.
If I were late, it’d do no harm.
And as I left, he said to me,
“I thank you, you’ve been so kind.
It’s nice to talk with folks like you.
You see,” he said, “I’m blind.”
Oh, God, forgive me when I whine.
I have two eyes; the world is mine.
Later while walking down the street,
I saw a child I knew.
He stood and watched the others play,
but he did not know what to do.
I stopped a moment and then I said,
“Why don’t you join them dear?”
He looked ahead without a word.
I forgot, he couldn’t hear.
Oh, God, forgive me when I whine.
I have two ears; the world is mine.
With feet to take me where I’d go,
With eyes to see the sunset’s glow,
With ears to hear what I’d know,
Oh, God, forgive me when I whine.
I’ve been blessed indeed, the world is mine.
If this poem makes you feel thankful, just share it to your friends. After all, it’s just a simple reminder that we have so much to be thankful for! Give the gift of love. It never comes back empty! copied

HAPPINESS

This story is about a beautiful, expensively dressed lady who complained to her psychiatrist that she felt that her whole life was empty, it had no meaning.

So, the lady went to visit a counselor to seek out happiness.

The counselor called over the old lady who cleaned the office floors.

The counselor then said to the rich lady “I’m going to ask Mary here to tell u how she found happiness. All I want u to do is listen to her.”

So the old lady put down her broom and sat on a chair and told her story:

“Well, my husband died of malaria and three months later my only son was killed by a car. I had nobody. I had nothing left. I couldn’t sleep, I couldn’t eat, I never smiled at anyone, I even thought of taking my own life. Then one evening a little kitten followed me home from work. Somehow I felt sorry for that kitten. It was cold outside, so I decided to let the kitten in. I got some milk, and the kitten licked the plate clean. Then it purred and rubbed against my leg and, for the first time in months, I smiled.

Then I stopped to think, if helping a little kitten could make me smile, may be doing something for people could make me happy.

So, the next day I baked some biscuits and took them to a neighbor who was sick in bed.

Every day I tried to do something nice for someone. It made me so happy to see them happy.

Today, I don’t know of anybody who sleeps and eats better than I do.
I’ve found happiness, by giving it to others.”

When she heard this, the rich lady cried. She had everything that money could buy, but she had lost the things which money cannot buy.

“The beauty of life does not depend on how happy you are; but on how happy others can be because of you…”

Happiness is not a destination, it’s a journey.

Happiness is not tomorrow, it is now.

Happiness is not dependency, it is a decision.
Happiness is what you are, not what you have..😊copied

from Ben Carson

A 6 yr old boy was in the market with his 4 yr old sister. Suddenly the boy found that his sister was lagging behind.

He stopped and looked back. His sister was standing in front of a toy shop and was watching something with great interest.

The boy went back to her and asked, “Do you want something?” The sister pointed at the doll. The boy held her hand and like a responsible elder brother, gave that doll to her. The sister was very very happy…

The shopkeeper was watching everything and getting amused to see the matured behavior of the boy…

Now the boy came to the counter and asked the shopkeeper, “What is the cost of this doll, Sir? !”

The shopkeeper was a cool man and had experienced the odds of life. So he asked the boy with a lot of love & affection, “Well, What can you pay?”

The boy took out all the shells that he had collected from sea shore, from his pocket and gave them to the shopkeeper. The shopkeeper took the shells and started counting as if he were counting the currency. Then he looked at the boy. The boy asked him worriedly, “Is it less?”

The shopkeeper said, “No, No… These are more than the cost. So I will return the remaining.” Saying so, he kept only 4 shells with him and returned the remaining.

The boy, very happily kept those shells back in his pocket and went away with his sister.

A servant in that shop got very surprised watching all these. He asked his master, “Sir ! You gave away such a costly doll just for 4 shells ???”

The shopkeeper said with a smile, “Well, for us these are mere shells.

But for that boy, these shells are very precious. And at this age he does not understand what money is, but when he will grow up, he definitely will. And when he would remember that he purchased a doll with the Shells instead of Money, he will remember me and think that world is full of Good people.

It will help him develop a positive attitude and he too in turn will feel motivated to be Good.”

Whatever emotion you infuse into the world, it will further spread. If you do good, goodness will spread. If you do bad, negativity will spread.

Realize you are a very powerful source of energy.

Your good or bad will come back to you magnified. Not in the ways you want it, and probably not in the ways you can understand it. But it will come back.

PARENTAL BLESSING

Who so curseth his father or his mother, his lamp shall be put out in obscure darkness and his inheritance may be gotten hastily at the beginning, but the end thereof shall not be blessed. It may look like it is working for you now, but the end thereof shall not be blessed. But an upright man’s end shall be peace. You are living a lavish life but your parents are sleeping on mats, struggling for what to eat. That it is not well with some people in life is not because the devil is especially interested in them, but it is because of how they are treating their parent and parent In-law. Parents carry blessings which is called “parental blessings”. This blessing cannot be gotten from anywhere except from your parents.

Wife! Do not forget that without your In-law, your husband would not be married to you now, and do not forget that you are also going to give birth to a son and that these things are going to be reciprocated. You may be young today, but you will be old tomorrow. The same way you are talking about that old woman, that is the same way these children will be saying ‘this old woman. The best way to enjoy your in-laws is to show them love, befriend them, and do them good. But if the moment you stepped into that man’s life and he becomes a different person, his family doesn’t know him again, and he doesn’t remember them again. The family will blame you because it was at the point of your arrival that everything changed. Show yourself friendly to your in-laws so that when you need them, they will be there for you. ‘Somebody may say that his/her father is already dead so that is not his /her business. That’s a lie. Look for the oldest person and make him your father. Take care of him/her as you would your father/mother., because there is a blessing these people are carrying for you, and it is called ‘parental blessing’. You need it.

When Esau lost it, Esau wept bitterly. Because he knew that his life was finished without that parental blessing. He said ‘oh my father do you have only one blessing? Please bless me also. Bless me for I do not want to be a frustrated man.’ If that blessing was not important, then Esau wouldn’t have cried so much. So many people do not care about their parents. The parents undergo hardship and just say: ‘oh Lord, judge between me and my son.’ That is enough to end your destiny. This curse can be reversed on the prayer altar. Jacob was under a curse for 21 years. He was laboring under this curse for 21 years. But one night the bible says he was left alone. He engaged a prayer altar and his prayer was: ‘I won’t let you go unless you bless me.’ The opposite of curse is bless. God reversed Jacob’s curse and from that day, Jacob’s fold started multiplying. Jabez also. The curse his mother placed on him, Jabez reversed it on the prayer altar.

Take your time, pray unto God to help you avoid this curse and if you find yourself doing any of the things mentioned above, stop and pray to God to turn this curse round into a blessing. Amen

BITTERNESS: DESTINY SPOILER

When you work in bitterness against someone, it is not the person you are bitter against that suffers it, you are the one that suffers it. Bitterness defiles destiny, bitterness embitters destiny, it troubles your destiny. There are people that are bitter against their fellow man/woman, in-laws for no just cause, no reason, out of envy the person has not done them anything, they are just bitter ‘’why should it be that person? Why should this person be alive?’’ You bring yourself under a curse, even when they have done you something that is why the Bible says, when you start praying if anybody have offended you, forgive them otherwise the root of bitterness will spring up.

Bitterness makes you to fall short of the grace of God. He said: “looking diligently, lest anyone falls short of the grace of God”. Looking diligently, that means from time to time check yourself, is there anybody I am bitter against? Is there anybody that I am carrying bitterness in my heart for? He said do not allow it. Do not allow the root of bitterness to spring up. He said that if you do, it will cause defilement, it will trouble your destiny. When grace leaves, disgrace becomes inevitable.

Bitterness, just being bitter against people, talk bitter words about them, pray bitter prayer against them. Bitterness is costly, you cannot see far. You are a global citizen and not a local champion. He said that you are the light of the world, you are not the light of the judge, and you are the city set on the hill that cannot be hidden. You are the salt of the earth, no one lights a candle and puts it under. You are redeemed for global relevance. So you cannot be arguing with one tiny individual that said that your head was too big and your nose is flat. And then you spend all your time discussing: did you really say that or you were talking about another person and he replies “eh, I said it, what are you going to do to me?” and you get bitter.

He said little minds discuss people, they are so small that they cannot see, so they spend their precious time discussing people. But great minds discuss ideas. How to move forward, how to affect their generation, how to make impact. That is what great minds discuss. God bless us.

BEST WAYS TO APOLOGISE TO YOUR PARTNER

Saying ‘I’m sorry’ is one easy way to save your relationship / marriage, but surprisingly many couples find this difficult to do.
Apologising to your partner when you have wronged them doesn’t show weakness but strength and it also proves that you value your relationship. Many relationships have died and faded away so easily just because one or both partners never apologised.
In some partners, it isn’t that they don’t want to apologise, but they don’t even know how to.
There are some effective ways you can apologise to your partner that would make them turn around quickly.
1. ADMIT YOU WERE WRONG
This is the first step to apology; there are no buts in apologies. Admit that you were wrong and take total responsibility for your actions. You make it easier for your partner to forgive you when you take responsibility.
2. A DEEP HUG
A deep hug in some situations can make your partner turn around quickly. It shows you are sorry and didn’t mean to hurt them and it also shows that you care about your partner and value the relationship a lot.
3. WRITE A LETTER
Sometimes, apologising face-to-face with your partner can be quite difficult, especially if they won’t listen to you. Writing a letter in this situation can set the path for reconciliation. Write a letter accepting responsibility and it should reveal how sorry you really are and that such a situation wouldn’t happen again. Written words can sometimes pass a message that spoken words wouldn’t pass.
4. SLIP A NOTE SOMEWHERE
Another way to apologise to your partner is by slipping an unexpected note somewhere they would easily find it. Slip a very short and simple note somewhere your partner would find them and your partner would easily forgive you thereafter. The note can bear “I’m sorry honey, you are the best”, or “I’m sorry love, it won’t happen again”. This kind of apology is short, precise and highly effective — and it would most likely leave a smile on your partner’s face.
5. IT SHOULD BE ALMOST IMMEDIATE
The apology should be almost immediate in the sense that you shouldn’t leave your partner for days and weeks or even months before apologising — this would create grudges, disharmony and leave bad seeds in the relationship. Don’t wait for too long before apologising.
6. MAKE A LIST OF WHY YOUR PARTNER IS IMPORTANT TO YOU
This is another highly effective way to apologise to your partner. Write your partner a note or send an email to them revealing the top five things that make your partner so special and why your partner is so important to you.
This type of apology would definitely leave your partner smiling.
7. SOCIAL MEDIA
Social media is also another effective way to apologise to your partner. Saying you’re sorry on a social media platform is more like a public apology; by this, your partner would know you are deeply sorry. Though, not everyone feels comfortable with a public apology.
8. GIVE YOUR PARTNER A GIFT AT WORK
Talk about being romantic, you can actually be romantic to your partner while asking for forgiveness. Send your partner a gift while they are at work with a simple note saying “I’m deeply sorry”. You would surely make your partner the envy of their colleagues at work that day. There is no better way to apologise than when you put a smile on your partner’s face.
Sometimes, it’s not even about apologising but how you apologise that really matters. Apology is an important part of a relationship; couples that apologize to each other have better relationships and that’s a fact. by Paul Sayefunmi Godwin

10 SIMPLE WAYS TO MAKE YOUR MARRIAGE STRONGER

1. When you wake up…no matter how short or long the marriage is, kiss her good morning DONT GREET HER!
2. When he comes home…DONT SIT DOWN, wake up and meet him at the door, a hug and/or kiss and ask how his day was….he spent most of it trying to make sure you guys have food in the house.
3. Before you sleep, PRAY TOGETHER AS A FAMILY, and in your prayers, always thank God for your spouse and for his/her love and dedication to the family.
4. Daily no matter how tired you are, spend a few minutes to discuss how the day was what challenges you both met and how you handled the situation.
5. Find a moment to encourage each other from scriptures. If you can get a devotional guide, let each person handle a day of the week including kids (if they can)
6. Just because you married her, life does not stop. At least once a month, take her out to dinner, spend the evening just the two of you outside the house eating and talking-just the same way you tried convincing her to marry you.
7. Be proud of your husband/wife.
Walk together holding hands, text during the day…your wife/husband should be your best friend, so those stuff you talk to your friends, include your spouse, ask silly questions like what are you having for lunch? What would you like for supper? Can i get you anything? Did you get to work? Oh i just called to say i miss you….Have you left work? etc…
8. People get scared to talk about this but sex does destroy marriages.
SATISFY your husband/wife sexually..it is a gift that can be perfectly enjoyed in holy matrimony…its not a sin when you are married. So stop feeling guilty and make sure your sex life is completely satisfied and enjoyed by the two of you. Do not give room for your spouse to be tempted sexually outside of marriage because in it you cannot give in.
9. Everyday never forget to say you love your husband/wife at least 5times.
Saying i love you, never gets boring, it never gets rhetorical it never hurts for someone to hear. “its a delicious meal, i love you” “wow, you came early….i love you swry” “will you please get some bread as you come? I love you” “good night my love” “wakey wakey swry time for breakfast love”
10. Never go to bed angry, solve those arguments with love. Fight all you can but at the end, remember to pray together, pray for your love and marriage and the goodnight has to have “i love you”. Always remember a family that prays together stays together..by Alexandra Aleiro

THE LAW OF MARITAL BALANCE.

Don’t live life without spice, it’s like taking bread without tea or water, sooner or later somebody will be choked.
‎Don’t be too spiritual and abscond from the physical, marriage is very physical yet spiritual.

There is a part of every woman that wants a phenomenal guy for a husband
There is a part of every guy that wants a “sexy” babe for a wife

To be spiritual and not romantic is to kill your marriage by yourself and then lie on the devil

He loves a prayerful woman but also needs a playful baby

Every woman wants a serious minded guy but they also want a guy who plays hard like a kid

They want a visionary man but don’t go to the extent that she has to pray that you lose your vision so that she can have you
I know you need to put food on the table and succeed as a man, but there is no point sacrificing your family for your job and not ‎have anyone to celebrate your success with you
Don’t wait until somebody shows your spouse a new lease of life. Don’t allow your spouse to be tempted.

Some experiences are better avoided than‎ amended
Even if you grew up in the Monastry, don’t confine yourself to being a missionary
Churches often cry in prayers for revival because their pastor is not charismatic
Ask successful pastors how they have succeeded pastoring for more than 20 years, it has taken a lot of dynamism

Crack jokes, go out, see movies, run around the house,‎ take a stroll together, play games. Keep on dating.
Somebody cannot be cooking for 20 years in a stretch and not get tired, do role reversal, spring pleasant surprises
Don’t be too serious, marriage does not make people happy, it’s people who make marriage sweet.
There is no love in marriage, love is in people. There is no romance in love, people infuse romance into their marriage
A couple must learn the art and science of giving, communicating, loving, serving, praising and keeping the box full.
If you demand for more than you put into the love tank, you will be disappointed..copied

NO MARRIAGE IS UNBREAKABLE. PROTECT YOUR MARRIAGE!!!

To keep your marriage healthy, you will have to work on it. Some marriages break even when it seems they have passed the breaking point. Right now a divorce process is going on between one of my bosses and his wife.”

That is not special, I thought to myself. But then she detonated the bomb.

“My boss is 84 years old and the wife is 81.”
Whatever can make a couple who has been married for more than half a century drag themselves to court for divorce? I’m not here to give reasons today, but just to let us know that long duration does not necessarily cement a relationship. No marriage is UNBREAKABLE. A pastor can marry an angel sent from heaven, and a bishop can marry an arch-bishop, if they don’t make the unity of their marriage a worthwhile project, it will eventually collapse.
I do not need to list the high profile cases of renown pastors and celebrities, (these days the two words seem to have become synonyms), that break down despite all the knowledge of the word of God and all the money they have. We ordinary Christians wonder why. The truth is ALL MARRIAGES NEED THE SAME INGREDIENTS TO WORK. It doesn’t matter if you are rich or poor, preacher or layman. My marriage will not work just because I am a pastor. In fact, being a pastor may kill my marriage if it is not handled correctly.

In 1995, I officiated in a wedding as an usher. That wedding was one of a kind. The bride’s daddy was a wealthy deacon and all parties involved were Christians. Two weeks later I was in my pastor’s house and the bride came crying, with a bandaged right hand and a swollen face. The groom had terminated the honeymoon in style: he beat the hell out of his new wife. That marriage never survived.

When a marriage fails, it is never God’s fault. When a man and a woman get married, the responsibility to make it work rests entirely on both of them. That responsibility will not reduce when they have been married for 10 years, or 50 years, or even 80 years. Your marriage may be old, but your responsibilities to it must always be kept fresh.

Let me re-phrase that: Your responsibilities to your marriage must be kept young no matter how old your marriage is.

May the Lord keep us strong. Copied Post

Are you kind to your partner?

To be kind means to be good or benevolent in nature or disposition, as a person.

Without kindness in your relationship, your marriage won’t last. Here are some ways to check up on yourself to see how long you are in your relationship.

1. You say “yes” a lot more than “no” when your spouse asks for a favoured for help
2. You are willing to share what you have because being kind is being generous
3. You listen with your heart
4. You don’t interupt your partner
5. You are polite and say “please” and “thank you” when speaking to your spouse
6. You show respect for your mate
7. You let your partner know how much he/she is appreciated
8. You don’t roll your eyes when your partner says something you disagree with or something you think is trivial or boring
9. You routinely look for good in your spouse
10. You are helpful
11. You don’t allow unkind comments to flow from your lips
12. You make sure that your teasing is fun and not hurtful

Is there any other way you will like your partner to show kindness to you? Kindly share……