WHEN TO BE SILENT . . . The Bible says

1. Be silent In the heat of
anger – (Prov 14:17)

2. Be silent When you don’t
have all the facts – (Prov
18:13)

3. Be silent When you
haven’t verified the story –
(Deut 17:6)

4. Be silent If your words
will offend a weaker
person – (1 Cor 8:11)

5. Be silent When it is time
to listen – (Prov 13:1)

6. Be silent When you are
tempted to make light of
holy things – (Eccl 5:2)

7. Be silent When you are
tempted to joke about
sin – (Prov 14:9)

8. Be silent If you would be
ashamed of your words
later – (Prov 8:8)

9. Be silent If your words
would convey the wrong
impression – (Prov 17:27)

10. Be silent If the issue is
none of your business –
(Prov 14:10)

11. Be silent When you are
tempted to tell an
outright lie – (Prov 4:24)

12. Be silent If your words
will damage someone
else’s reputation – (Pro
16:27)

13. Be silent If your words
will damage a friendship
– (Prov 16:28)

14. Be silent When you are
feeling critical – (James
3:9)

15. Be silent If you can’t say
it without screaming it –
(Prov 25:28)

16. Be silent If your words
will be a poor reflection
of the Lord or your
friends and family – (1 Pt
2:21-23)

17. Be silent If you may
have to eat your words
later – (Prov 18:21)

18. Be silent If you have
already said it more
than one time – (Prov
19:13)

19. Be silent When you are
tempted to flatter a
wicked person – (Prov
24:24)

20. Be silent When you are
supposed to be working
instead – (Prov 14:23)

“WHOEVER GUARDS HIS MOUTH AND TONGUE KEEPS HIS SOUL FROM TROUBLES” – (Prov 21:23).

“BE STILL, AND KNOW THAT I AM GOD” (Ps 46:10).

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Your Child Is Not A Goat

This past weekend, I was given the opportunity to admonish parents, then teens. I found out that there is a communication divide between parents and their children.

Communication is different from talking. Communication has to do with passing a message and receiving a feedback, while talking is just passing information(it’s usually one sided).

During one of my coaching sessions with teens, I asked them if there are statements said to them that have influenced them negatively or positively. Some of the teens responded.

One of them said that her mum used to compare her behavior to that of an animal. She said, she won’t forget it.

I know some parents call their children all kinds of names such as, goat, idiot, stupid, nonentity, failure, vagabond, etc.

The reason for some parents is that they are trying to correct the child. Most parents even say these terrible words in anger.

I say to you, your child is not a goat. Stop calling your child evil names. You are proclaiming evil over the child.

The sad thing is that some parents will curse their children, then later on pray for them.

There are sometimes your child can get you angry up to a tipping point( I have been there with my teens). I get angry at the act, instead of calling the child terrible words, I say, you are acting silly.

Correct in love. Let the child know why you are disciplining him or her.

I encourage you to proclaim Blessing over your child. Call your child, Blessed, Great, The Advantage, etc.

With your words and actions, you can shape the future of your child.

Weekly, I inspire and coach teens to become responsible and excellent ambassadors of themselves and their families. I help parents understand and communicate effectively with their teens.copied

Oluwatosin Fatungase(Pharm)
Teen Behavioural Coach
@Oluwatosinfatun
Inspiring Greatness…

WHILE I WAS PONDERING ABOUT LIFE, I DISCOVERED THAT:

Sometimes, to succeed in life you need ENEMIES! Yes!

You need people who will mock you, so that you can run to God.

You need people who will try to intimidate you, so that you can be courageous.

You need people who will say “NO” so that you can learn how to be independent…I mean how to do it yourself.

You need people who will disappoint you so that you can put all your trust in God alone.

You need people who will work towards you loosing that job, so that you can start your own big business.

You need people who will sell your ‘Joseph’ so that ‘he’ can get to Egypt.

You need a cruel landlord, so that you won’t be too comfortable in someone else’s house, then you can build your own house on time.

But sometimes, when we are disappointed, we feel very bad and we tend to remain on that spot. Not knowing that the end-point of disappointment is the beginning of your accomplishments.

Understand this, “that every disappointment you once had came with a blessing!” However, it is not everyone that partakes in this blessing that I’m talking about.

You cannot see a new OPEN door while you are still putting all your attention, time and energy in trying to force the closed one to open.

And again I say, “No disappointment can ever come without an attached blessing!” So, when the disappointment comes, thank God for it and tell “HIM” to open your eyes to see the new blessing that HE has for you!

Disappointment is PHASE1… while accomplishment is PHASE2… I doubt if you can jump the protocol.

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You can only give what you have

Back in the days when Germany was divided, a huge wall separated East and West Berlin. One day, some people in East Berlin took a truck load of garbage and dumped it on the West Berlin side. The people of West Berlin could have done the same thing, but they didn’t. Instead they took a truck load of canned goods, bread, milk and other provisions, and neatly stacked it on the East Berlin side….On top of this stack they placed the sign:

*“EACH GIVES WHAT HE HAS”*

How very true! You can only give what you have.

My dear friend, what do you have inside of you? Is it hate or love? Violence or peace? Death or life? What have you acquired over the years? Is it capacity to build or capacity to destroy? Is it ability to make money or steal money? is it ingenuity to develop good things that will benefit mankind or ability to bomb those good things that others have labored to build?

*”EACH GIVES WHAT HE HAS”*

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Lion

You know what?*
*Something that might get you motivated has got me thinking for some time now*

*In the jungle which animal is the biggest …….I heard you say ,…….. elephant.*

*In the jungle which animal is the tallest…… I heard you say ……Giraffe.*

*In the jungle which animal is the wisest…….I heard you say………. Tortoise*

*In the jungle which animal is the fastest …….. I heard you say ……. Cheetahs.*

*Uhmm. Among all these wonderful qualities mentioned…… Where is the Lion in the picture.*

*Yet you say the Lion is the king of the jungle even without any of these qualities.*

*But I discovered something fascinating about the Lion.*

*_The Lion is Courageous_*

*_The Lion is very bold_*

*_The Lion is always ready to face any mountain, any challenges, any barrier that crosses his part, no matter how big they are._*

*_The Lion walks with confidence._*

*_The Lion dares anything and it’s never afraid_*

*_The Lion believes he is unstoppable._*

*_The Lion is a risk taker_*

*_The Lion believes any animal is food for him_*

*_The Lion believes any opportunity is worth giving a trial and never allows it slip from his hands._*

*_The Lion has charisma._*

*_What is it that I want you to learn from this piece ._*

_*• You don’t need to be the fastest._*
_*• You don’t need to be the wisest_*
_*• You don’t need to be the smartest_*
_*• You dont need to be the most brilliant._*
_*• You don’t need to be generally accepted to become your dreams and be great in life._*

*_• All you need is courage_*
_*• All you need is boldness_*
_*• All you need is the will to try_*
_*• All you need is the faith to believe it is possible. All you need is to believe in yourself that you can do it👍🏻 and you will find yourself doing it.

*Just do it*!

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smile

Don’t you ever lose hope in this life, no matter the odds you’re up against, no matter whatever happens, it’s still your choice, your decision and your power, to hold on to your faith in God and in what is right and true. That’s the one thing that can never be taken away from you by any tribulation unless you allow it.

Because I know you believe in your heart, that with God all things are possible even the ones we see as being impossible. I also know that life can be so hard to us. It can beat us down, blue and black, it can spit in our face, it can do just about anything to us, and yet you can’t do a thing to prevent it.

But I can assure you that one day you will definitely smile again. You will wake up in the morning like you have woken up this day, and not have to fight the urge to cry anymore. Yes, it can take a while, days weeks, months, maybe even years. But you will surely get there, it is God’s promise that after you have suffered for a little while, that He will settle you.

However, don’t forget after all said and done including your achievements, if you don’t have God above all these things, you have gained nothing at all. copied

Fear of God

Whenever the devil blinds a man or woman’s vision, he makes him or her see nothing wrong with whatever he or she does. Do not mortgage your soul to the devil on account of anything, be it good job, beauty, wealth, power, fame, lust, position etc, they are all transitory and when they eventually vanish the way they came, you will be left with the consequences and most of all, the reality of eternity.

Live your life with the fear of God and respect for your fellow human beings. Nothing in this world lasts forever, therefore, if you must boast, it is better to boast only in the Lord who made heaven and earth. From James Obiora U.

Respect

If you want to be respected by people around you, make sure you’ve given them their own due respect in the first place. Respect is a give and take thing, the amount you give is exactly the amount you get in return. Wealth, fame and power does not make you a better person to be respected by all.

If you don’t examine your character from time to time, you may gradually drift towards being proud, overbearing and arrogant, or worst still, seeing other people who are not as privileged as you are, to be lesser human beings.

We must not allow the vain and passing things of this life in our possession to dictate for us the way to relate with others starting especially from those who are very close to us, for our charity must begin at our homes before going into the world. James O. U

SHE PUSHED ME AWAY, BUT LATER SAID ‘SORRY SIR:

I Went to an e-bank hall few months ago. As I was about entering the hall, a lady ran ahead of me and pushed me away, so she could quickly join the long queue before I will get to the queue. I did not say anything. She felt I will stay at her back, but I was actually not there to withdraw, I came to deposit.

So I walked to the deposit machine and I was the only one there. No single person on the queue. When I finished depositing. I was about leaving the hall, when the lady came from the queue and apologized to me for pushing me away the other time.

With sorry smile on her face; she said ‘I am sorry Sir for pushing you away, I thought you were coming to the queue’, I just smiled and told her not to bother, that’s is not a big deal..

But since then, the lesson in this story kept coming to my mind, and I felt I should share it for us all to learn from it.

Friends, who are you ‘pushing’ away and trying to out run in the race of destiny, relationship, business, ministry, career, etc? You are thinking you are going to the same ‘queue’ ( destination) unknowing to you that, though your path may look alike,but your destinations are different!.

How many people have had to say ‘sorry’ to those they pushed aside, pushed away, push down when they finally realized that that person was not actually going to the ‘withdrawal machine’ they were running to.

Are you reading this and you are pushing people away here and there by slandering them, hindering their progress, blocking their promotion, spoiling their good names through lies and rumour all in a bid to ‘get there’ before them.

I challenge you today, to take it easy. You might not be going to the same destination. It might surprise you later that, with all your pushing away you are doing, they may still leave you on the ‘queue’ of destiny later and they will be successful before you.

Finally, are you reading this and you can feel people in your office, ministry, business, club,community etc pushing you away so that they can get ahead of you?.

Don’t worry, God will use your case to prove to them that, ‘it is not of him to runs, but of the Lord that shows mercy…’ He will show you mercy and give you an overtaking speed and those who are pushing you here and there will later come and tell you they are sorry.

Please, don’t push anybody. You might meet on the same path, but you might not be going to the same ‘machine’ ( destination). Thanks for reading. You can share to warn someone and to encourage someone.

Do have a glorious week ahead.

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A lovely little girl was holding two apples with both hands.

Her mum came in and softly asked her little daughter with a smile; my sweetie, could you give your mum one of your two apples?

The girl looked up at her mum for some seconds, then she suddenly took a quick bite on one apple, and then quickly on the other.

The mum felt the smile on her face freeze. She tried hard not to reveal her disappointment.

Then the little girl handed one of her bitten apples to her mum,and said: mummy, here you are. This is the sweeter one.

No matter who you are, how experienced you are, and how knowledgeable you think you are, always delay judgement.

Give others the privilege to explain themselves.

What you see may not be the reality. Never conclude for others.

Which is why we should never only focus on the surface and judge others without understanding them first.

Those who like to pay the bill, do so not because they are loaded but because they value friendship above money.

Those who take the initiative at work, do so not because they are stupid but because they understand the concept of responsibility.

Those who apologizes first after a fight, do so not because they are wrong but because they value the people around them.

Those who are willing to help you, do so not because they owe you any thing but because they see you as a true friend.

Those who often text you, do so not because they have nothing better to do but because you are in their heart.

Those who take out time to chat with you, does not mean they are jobless or less busy, but they know the importance of keeping in touch.

One day, all of us will get separated from each other; we will miss our conversations of everything & nothing; the dreams that we had.

Days will pass by, months, years, until this contact becomes rare… One day our children will see our pictures and ask ‘Who are these people?’ And we will smile with invisible tears because a heart is touched with a strong word and you will say: ‘IT WAS THEM THAT I HAD THE BEST DAYS OF MY LIFE WITH’.

Send this to all your friends that you will never forget.

Put this on the whatsapp of those who made you smile in any type of way.

It might surprise you but look at how many will be sent back.

Thank you for making me smile for sometime in my life.

By Rev. Peter Simon

THE MYSTERY OF TRUE LOVE

True love is hard to find. When you find one hold it, don’t let it go for you never know when you might find it again.

When you love, use your heart to keep it and nurture it.

Love is more than just emotions of the flesh.

It supersedes all odds of life.

Love is eternal and only those that internalize and passionately treasure it find the secret of Love.

Love never departs from the presence of those that respects it and values it.

Note, the value of Love is only reflected when shared unconditionally even when conditions and situations doesn’t permits.

Always learn to forgive and appreciate the presence of Love from even those that seems to be dejected by the philosophy of man’s understanding of the real standards of Life and Love.

Love opens up every grave that have burred your hopes, drive and visions.

It gives strength and passion to the abandoned and rejected people.

It awakes the sleeping giants in every destiny appointed person.

It’s the mystery of miracles that turns a nobody to a somebody.

It gives positivity to the condemned and freedom to the slaved.

It’s not a fault finding agent

Love gives salvation to the captive and forgiveness to the guilt.

Love is the unifying factor between God and man.

The bond between hearts of men and God’s Spirit.

In the presence of Love the dead finds life and failures finds solutions that leads to liberation.

Love is the power force behind every successful relationship and marriage.

Love always gives and never takes thus it supernaturally brightens the countenance of the condemned.

Love always gives birth to passion, enthusiasm, positivity, focus and wisdom to one who righteously and godly possesses it.

Nothing fails or fakes in the presence of true Love.

For God is Love and as His prototype we are made and created to Love in truth and in spirit.

Joy comes in the morning

Surprise!
It was a very sunny Saturday morning, and our wedding anniversary. I looked at my wife as she got ready to leave the house for work. She is a doctor and had been on call today. It seemed like yesterday she walked down the aisle to me. Wow! We are twenty-three years in marriage today. I smiled at her, she smiled back. We have this thing we do in our anniversary; its more like a friendly competition, we see who surprises whom with the best anniversary gift. She had won five years in a row; I was definitely going to win this year because my surprise for her would blow her head off.

“So what are you going to do this year” she asked me, coming out clean with the question because she had stealthily tried to find out what my plans were. “Watch and see” I told her. I asked her the same question; she just said “hmmm”. I’ve discovered when a woman says hmmm, she’s really got something hot cooking. She picked her bag, kissed my beardy cheek and left. We had plans for dinner by 6:00pm tonight. Then, I would unleash my ‘BIG’ surprise.

We have been married for twenty-two years and we have no children, or perhaps God had not given us any. Over time we had come to realize that sometimes God says yes, wait or no! And there is nothing we could do to change that fact. He is GOD. Therefore, I had vowed to love Patience with the whole of my being. I had promised to always make her laugh and though we both sunk into lugubrious moods, we would trust and keep hope alive. I would be her husband and her son; and she my wife and daughter. We had just ourselves.

Patience, my wife reads a lot of books and her favourite authors are Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie and Karen Kingsbury and I bet she could kill to meet them in person. Last year I contacted Chimamanda and started making preparations to surprise my wife this year. After much process, I got her to have dinner with us tonight. It wasn’t easy at all. My wife was going to faint! The idea that I had won this years’ anniversary surprise made me all jumpy and giddy. I was going to prepare her best meal, ‘Efo riro, bush meat and poundy’.
I had known what my wife had planned for me. We live in Accra and I had always wanted to visit Nigeria, to Jos. I had told her so many stuff about this place I had grown up in, and especially about the mouthwatering ‘Gwete’. I had tried to prepare gwete for her and on so many occasions failed. In fact the last time I tried it looks like ‘Acha pudding’ with cabbage and biscuit bone. LOL. Anyways, I heard her making plans for us to travel to Jos. I smiled.

Its 5:00pm, I had finished the cooking and all, set the table, lit the scented candles and did all the romantic ‘orishirishi’ we see in movies. The door opens.

“Awww!” She squeals. I hug her and after small talk she saunters off, mounting the staircase to get ready for dinner. I had showered, shaved and dressed in a crisp white shirt, jeans and sneakers. We are one of those couples that still try to look young even in our aging years. Forty-five minutes later, she comes down in a black dress with silver studs in her ears; she looked breathtaking. Although I could still see the grey that stuck in her hair. As we sat, the doorbell rang. I smiled, my surprise had arrived.

“Baby, get the door please” I said and ran off to get my camera. As she opens the door, she sees Chimamanda and her assistant standing at the door. She screamed! And hugged the smiling guest. We all sat to eat. I watched them both smiling from ear to ear as they discussed so many things especially about her books and all. Its 7:30pm and I can’t wait for Chimamanda to leave so I could clinch onto my victory.
Finally, she left. We were clearing the table when I saw the brown envelope stickingvout from my wife’s purse. I knew it! It was our plane tickets to Jos. Smiling victoriously I picked it up and opened it. I was right, tickets to Jos and also…

I collapsed on the sofa, and I couldn’t quench the river of tears that had started to flow on my well shaven face. I was sobbing hard. That after twenty- three years (today) of marriage, God had decided to make me a daddy! My wife joined me on the sofa, we were crying for joy together because after so many years of God telling us to wait, He finally said yes.

My head was on my wife’s laps. I could perceive her cologne better. Interrupting our tearful silence she asks me. “So honey, who surprised who, who won this year?” With a mischeviois grin, I looked up to her not wanting to carry last this year and said ” Na Godwin”. We both laughed looking ahead. We were going to be parents! God had surprised us both. Although, my wife keeps saying she won.

Inspiration: ‘Weeping may endure for the night, but joy comes in the morning.’

THIS HUSBAND OF MINE

He walked in the house only to find his wife angry, deflated, moody, irritable, frowning and with a long face.

“Hey love” he greeted her as he placed the newspaper on the table.

“Hey” she said with a dull tone. She was struggling to remove her shoes.

“You’ve just arrived?” He asked her as he went to the kitchen to drink a glass of water.

“Yes” she answered.

“The kids?” he asked.

“They are upstairs. Changing clothes and taking a bath” she answered as she stood up dragging her feet to place her shoes at the corner near the door.

“Are you OK?” He asked her.

“Yes” she answered.

“No you’re not. You don’t sound and look OK. Come on. Talk to me?” He asked as he moved closer to her.

“Aah! You and your many questions. Can’t you just let me be? I have had a really bad day and I am not in the mood” she said.

He looked at her as she walked past him and went to the kitchen where she banged things in the sink.

“What are you doing? You want to start cooking?” He asked her as he followed her.

“What does it look like I am doing? Some of your questions are childish. Too much” she told him.

“Don’t start cooking now. Come. Let’s go to the bedroom” he requested, grabbing her hand.

“It’s late. I need to start cooking or the kids will sleep late. I have no time” she declined.

“Just come. Please” he pleaded.

“If it’s sex. I am not in the mood” she told him off as she reached in the kitchen cabinet to pick up a packet of rice.

“My love. Please” he pleaded reaching out for her hand.

She gave him her hand. He held her by the waist as they climbed up the staircase.

They entered inside the bedroom. He closed the bedroom door.

“Will you join me for a moment of worship? Let’s kneel and worship God for a few minutes” he requested.

They both knelt on the floor and started to worship. He started singing and she joined him.

They broke out into whispers to God. She started crying as she fixed her eyes on Jesus. She shook her head side to side, clapping, lifting hands, deep in worship.

“Honey, talk to God about what happened today. Tell Him about your long day” he whispered to her.

Her lips moved. No sound from her lips. Eyes closed. Tears flowing down her cheeks.

A smile returned back to her face.

She held his hands and prayed.

“Thank You my Heavenly Father for Your throne of grace and mercy, for lifting up my burdens, for being my rock. Thank You for giving me such an amazing husband who reminds me of worship when life’s issues overwhelm me, who points me back to You when I am busy focusing on the meaningless struggles of earthly life, my career and the hustle and bustle that can easily distract. This is what I love to do, to lift up Your name no matter how good or bad my day is. And as I worship You, I feel better, You lift up my countenance, I gain back strength, I smile again, You sort things out. I will not worry. Forgive me for how I treated my husband earlier when all he was trying to do is to care for me. In Jesus’ name we pray. Amen” she prayed.

“Amen” he concluded the prayer with her.

He kissed her forehead.

“You look and sound much better. I forgive you Darling. Life has it’s ups and downs. You may not feel like talking to me sometimes, but please, talk to God. Let everything else wait, talk to God. Don’t be so busy living life when worship awaits you” he told her.

She moved closer to him and kissed his lips passionately.

They sat on the bedroom floor, his back leaning on the bed, she leaning on him as they kissed some more.

They cuddled. There.

She opened up to him and told him all the struggles she had during the day. How she got into a misunderstanding with mother, how things didn’t go as planned, the pressure at work, the car accident she had driving home, the amount of duties in need of her attention at home.

She felt safe in his arms. Laughing. Smiling.

“OK Honey, let’s go cook. I will help you cook” he told her.

They got up.

Walked downstairs to the kitchen.

They made jokes and sung as they cooked.

Their children watched mom and dad in a good mood and joined them.

Dinner was ready much faster and it was more fun making it.

They ate as a family.

Went to bed peaceful and happy ready for a new day.

Worship is powerful. Lifting up the Lord, does wonders in you. Pause for a while. Take a moment to worship. You will be better, your marriage and home will be touched by God.

Focus on the God who doesn’t change, not your temporary situations.

Kitchen Tips

Let’s learn some KITCHEN tips, your kitchen is
the most important room in your home. Alot
comes out from there, so let’s learn some few
tricks. Works wonders.

1. If you happen to over-salt a pot of soup, just
drop in a peeled potato. The potato will absorb
the excess salt.

2. When boiling eggs, add a pinch of salt to keep
the shells from cracking.

3. Never put citrus fruits(Oranges,Lemons, limes,
etc) or tomatoes in the fridge. The low
temperatures degrade the aroma and flavor of
these fruits.(That’s why our tomatoes don’t last
in the fridge)

4. To clean iron cookl-ware, don’t use detergents.
Just scrub them with salt and a clean, dry paper
towel.

5. When storing empty airtight containers, throw
in a pinch of salt to keep them from getting
stinky.

6. If you are making gravy(stew) and accidentally
burn it, just pour it into a clean pan and continue
cooking it. Add sugar a little at a time, tasting as
you go to avoid ‘over-sugaring’it. The sugar will
cancel out the burned taste.

7. Burned a pot of rice? Just place a piece of
white bread on top of the rice for 5-10 minutes to
draw out the burned flavour. Be careful not to
scrape the burned pieces off of the bottom of the
pan when serving the rice.

8. Before you chop fresh red peppers, rub a little
vegetable oil into your hands and your skin won’t
absorb the spiciness.

9. If you aren’t sure how fresh your eggs are,
place them in about four inches of water. Eggs
that stay on the bottom are fresh. If only one end
tips up, the egg is less fresh and should be used
soon. If it floats, it’s past the fresh stage.

10. To banish ants from the kitchen, find out
where they are coming in and cover the hole with
petroleum jelly(Vaseline). Ants won’t trek through
the jelly. If they are coming under a door, draw a
line on the floor with chalk. The little bugs also
won’t cross a line of chalk.

11. Don’t store your bananas in a bunch or in a
fruit bowl with other fruits. Separate your
bananas and place each in a different location.
Bananas release gases which cause fruits
(including other bananas) to ripen quickly.
Separating them will keep them fresh longer.

12. To keep potatoes from budding in the bag,
put an apple in with them.

13. If you manage to have some leftover wine,
cocktail drinks at the end of the evening, freeze it
in ice cube trays for easy addition to sauces
(white wine works wonders in sauces, i don’t joke
with them) in the future.
14. After boiling pasta or potatoes, cool the water
and use it to water your house plants. The water
contains nutrients that your plants will love.

15. When defrosting meat from the freezer, pour
some vinegar over it. Not only does it tenderize
the meat; it will also bring down the freezing
temperature of the meat and cause it to thaw
quicker. # Noteevery woman should have vinegar
in her kitchen.

16. Do you cry while peeling off onions, then try
this. After peeling off your onions, refrigerate the
onions for atleast 5minutes, then dice it. You will
be glad you did.

17. For aluminium pans that are looking dull, just
boil some apple peels in them. This will brighten
up the aluminum and make your house smell
yummy.

18. If your salt is becoming lumpy, put a few
grains of rice in with it to absorb excess
moisture.

19. Always keep an aloe vera plant in your
kitchen. It’s invaluable when you scrape your arm
or burn your finger. Just break off a leaf and rub
the gel from the inside on the injury.

20. When making a soup, sauce, that ends up too
fatty or greasy, drop in an ice cube. The ice will
attract the fat, which you can then scoop out.
This works wonders

21. To reuse cooking oil without tasting whatever
was cooked in the oil previously, cook a 1/4″
piece of ginger in the oil. It will remove any
remaining flavors and odors.

22. If your milk always goes bad before you can
finish it, try adding a pinch of salt to the carton
when you first open it. It will stay fresh days
longer.

23. If two drinking glasses become stuck together after stacking, it’s not impossible to unstick them. Just put ice in the inner glass and dunk the outer glass in warm water. The warm glass will expand and the cold glass will contract, making the glasses separate easily.

24. For splinters under the fingernail, soaking the affected finger in a bowl of milk with a piece of bread in it.

PLEASE READ THIS:

A guy slept off while waiting for his roommate, he keeps late night. As he tried turning around, a huge dark figure with flamy eyes opened his door, he wanted to scream but all strength was gone. Was it a dream or vision? He cant tell. It stared deep into his eyes and handed him a
letter, he opened it…….

Dear Jude,
I couldn’t make it home last night because I died. I thought life after death is an elusion but am here lonely and afraid in pains and in
torments The torture is unending, I cant explain it but am dying a thousand times in a second.
You never told me this place was for real and how to avoid it. We grew up together, went to school together and did everything in common but you never told me about this new life of yours. I asked you severally and you jokingly pushed it aside. I was a good man with a charitable heart but that didn’t count here. The angel told me, am without Christ and my name is not in the book of life. I asked you yesterday morning whats this born again stuff and you said you don’t want to bore me. Am in pains, can you hear the screams, the torments of the great and the less, I was told its for eternity.
You betrayed our friendship, you never told me sex was fornication but you cautioned me against AIDS, you never told me getting high was drunkenness, you just told me not to drive, you never told me lying was sin, all you just said was don’t be caught. I hate you for this…. aaaahhhh….. aaahhhh….aaa am dying again here but am alive, the flames keeps getting hotter. I wish you were here. You deceived me to the end. If you had told me about Jesus and salvation I knew I couldn’t be here. I died only a few hours ago, I was drunk and ran into a pole but it seems I have been here for years.
Please tell my family and all our friends about salvation. Am dying again but death wont come. Its me, Emeka.
He woked up at about 2:45AM with a banging headache and his phone started ringing, he picked it up and what he heard scared him to his bones.”Hello, Emeka is dead”.
Today is still another opportunity to tell someone very dear to you about Jesus Christ and His saving grace. I just told you because I will never want you to end up in HELL.

HAVE YOU TOLD SOMEONE ABOUT JESUS TODAY?

U can copy, edit and paste in other group chats please. God will help us in this race in the mighty name of Jesus.

MAKING PEACE AT HOME.

1. Be quick to apologize, and explain what you will do to rectify the situation. Do not let negative emotions cause you to lose sight of your main objectives- making peace……. Proverbs 6:3.

2. Keep your volume down and your tone conciliatory. One family member’s impatience can easily rouse another anger. Resist the urge to be sarcastic or to raise your voice, no matter how offended you may feel. Avoid hurtful accusations, such as “you don’t care about me” or “you never listen”…….. Eph.4:31.

3. Carefully consider what needs to be said and how to say it. It will not improve matters if you focus your efforts on preparing a finely honed, cutting rebuttal. Instead, try to say something that can help soothe your loved one’s hurt feelings….. Proverbs 12:18.

4. Give yourself time to cool down. If your emotions are volatile, it may be wise to excuse yourself politely and walk away for a short while to cool down. You can go into another room or go for a walk until you have regain your composure. This is not stonewalling ie being evasive nor is it the silent treatment. Rather, this is perhaps a good time to pray to God for patience, insight, & understanding…… Proverb 17:14.

5. Stop retaliating. It takes at least two to argue, but when one begins listening instead of speaking, a heated exchange may start to cool down. Therefore, resist the urge to retaliate when provoked. Maintain your own self-respect & dignity by controlling yourself. Remember, peace in the family is more important than winning arguments……. Proverbs 26:20.

Be blessed as you get adapted to this 5 points agenda of making at family.

PLEASE READ

This is my son and he is two years old. A day ago, I was cooking in the kitchen and my kids were playing in the balcony when it started to rain heavily with a loud thunder sound. Usually my son would seek cover because he’s always scared when it rains or thunders, but in this case he stood firmly where he was and said… “Mummy, see JESUS is coming”.
I was shocked and asked him why he said so but instead he kept looking at the sky and repeated the same thing.
And suddenly he started singing two lines of a song we usually sing together. The lines are-“people get ready, the Lion is coming”.
But what surprised me is that he changed the second line while still looking upwards to “people get ready, JESUS is coming”
At this point I was baffled because I have never mentioned to him that JESUS is a Lion.
Today, he asked me saying “Mummy, where is JESUS?”
Usually we will both say “inside my heart and where is Satan, under my feet”.
But when I gave the usually response of “inside my heart”
He said a sharp – “noooooo, He’s coming”
And since then I have ask him severally where JESUS is, hoping to hear the inside my my heart response but his response has remained the same – HE”S COMING!!!
Hmmmm I won’t lie to you, this got me really sober and praying more fervently not just for my salvation but for the salvation of others
The bible says – “And it shall come to pass in the last days, saith God, I will pour out my Spirit upon all flesh:and your sons and your daughters shall prophesy, and your young men shall see visions and your old men shall dream dreams”-Acts 2:17
I shouldn’t be surprised that my son is prophesying just as God said, but honestly I am.
Please don’t take this message for granted. Share it and let the word of JESUS’ coming continue to go round so that none will be left with an excuse.
Now is the time to mend your ways before God before its too late and pray also for the salvation of your family, friends and nation.
God bless you.

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Don’t give up

I watched a local football match in a school playing ground. As I sat down, I asked one of the boys what the score was.

With a smile, he replied; “They are leading us 3-0” !
And I said, REALLY!!

I have to say you don’t look discouraged.

“Discouraged?” the boy asked with a puzzled look …

Why should I be discouraged when the referee has not blown the final whistle?

I have confidence in the team and the managers; We shall definitely overcome!

Truly, the match ended 5-4 in favor of the boy’s team!

He waved at me gently, with a beautiful smile as he left; I was amazed, mouth wide open; Such confidence; Such beautiful faith;

As I got back home that night, his question kept coming back to me:
“Why should I be discouraged when the referee has not blown the final whistle?”

Life is like a game.
Why should you be discouraged when The Almighty God is your manager? Why should you be discouraged, whist there’s still life? Why should you be discouraged when your final whistle has not sounded? The truth is that many people blow the final whistle themselves;

But as long as there is life, nothing is impossible and it is never too late for you.

Half time is not full time and HIS calendar for your life is not man’s calendar.

Don’t blow the whistle yourself.

BE ENCOURAGED! DON’T GIVE UP

With God all things are still possible!

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This message touched my heart and I think I should share with others!

The CHURCH and the WORLD!

I have not been in the church for a long time….
I was not there on the day of Pentecost…
I was not there when Brother Stephen had to endure the cruel stones of angry religious people who were mad at his biting words…
I was not present when the church rose in unison to save the head of Peter who was already in the dungeon of Herod Agrippa 2 who had silenced the first son of Zebedee among the twelve…
I was not among the congregation that listened as elders read from the handwritings of Paul, Peter or John…
I have not been in the church for a long time!

BUT!!!
I have been in the church for some time.
Long enough to see the era when the world was different from the church.
I saw the days when the world looked at the church with RESPECT and REVERENCE.
I saw the days when “BORN AGAIN” experience was the SINCERE BRIDGE through which men must cross from the world to the church.
I saw the days of “SU” revival when all truly converted people were so labelled by the world.
I saw the days when men respond to altar calls…
● NOT WITH CHEWING GUMS in their mouths but with TEARS in their eyes broken and truly submissive before the altar of God.

I have not been in the church for a long time!
BUT!!!
I saw the days when MEN OF GOD were…
● not MEN OF GOLD.
I saw the days when Reverends were not…
● LAUGHING STOCKS (FABLES) in the society but men given the honour of the God they truly represent.
I saw the days when men went to church to meet preachers and not –
● ENTERTAINERS.
I saw the days when the pulpit was not a place for…
● COMIC RELIEFS or centers of
● BUSINESS DISCUSSIONS but God’s holy altars from where holy fire proceeded to consume evil works in men’s lives.
I saw the days the Spirit of God would expose the secret evils of men when they came to worship and men would not dare come to His presence with SINS NOT YET REPENTED OF.
I saw the days when the church was a centre of transformation and God’s workshop where men’s lives were fabricated and MOLDED AFTER HIM.

I have not been in the church for a long time
BUT!!!
I saw the days when churches were not
● BUSINESS CENTRES and
● HUMAN EMPIRES.
I saw the days when humility was the hallmark of Christian service and men of God were contented with that SIMPLE LIFE OF CHRIST and will not hoodwink their hungry congregation to pay through their noses for the…
● LUXURY and EXTRAVAGANCE of PULPIT BUSINESS MEN.
I saw the days when…
● COLLECTION OF MONEY was never a means for motivating God to answer prayers.
I saw days when men pray lifting up holy hands and…
● NOT 1000 Naira notes/packs of 200 Rand notes/£50 notes in prayer meetings.
I saw days when men of God were empowered by the Holy Spirit to raise men and not trained by godless
● MOTIVATIONAL SPEAKERS to raise offerings.
I saw the days when…
● JESUS was the CENTRE of all MESSAGES,
● HEAVEN was the CENTRE of all FOCUSES, and
● HOLINESS was the CENTRE of all CHRISTIAN CHARACTER.

I have not been in the church for a long time!
HONESTLY,
I don’t know for how long I will remain in the church on this side of eternity.
NAY,
I do not know for how long the church will remain before the harvest of her Lord.
BUT,
But my heart bleeds for the modern day church.
Oh the church of the computer age.
Nay, the church of the ICE age.
The church where men PLAY more than PRAY.
The church where HOLINESS has become a mere DENOMINATIONAL DOCTRINE.
The church where those who speak the truth are seen as extremists and biased!

I weep for the modern day church as I see SELF ADVERTS and miracle hawking in the name of ministry.
I weep as I see the church married to the world and the world enjoying the driver’s seat of the church.
I weep when I see a church that is a million miles wide but less than a meter deep.

Although I have not been in the church for a long time, I weep brethren for what I see the church turning to in my generation.
I weep because my children and their generation do not see what I saw in the days past.

I have not been in the church for a long time!
BUT!!!
I notice everyday that the Bible is the same in every age and generation.
I have read times without number what is written in 1 Peter 2:9:
“BUT YE ARE A CHOSEN GENERATION, A ROYAL PRIESTHOOD, AN HOLY NATION, A PECULIAR PEOPLE; THAT YE SHOULD SHEW FORTH THE PRAISES OF HIM WHO HATH CALLED YOU OUT OF DARKNESS INTO HIS MARVELLOUS LIGHT”.
I keep wondering the peculiarity of the church in today’s world.

Well, I have not been in the church for a long time!
I have not been in the church for a long time.
BUT!!!
I have been there long enough to know that the Foundation of God still stands sure and also long enough to know that the Lord still knows those who are His and everyone that is named with Christ must depart from iniquity.

I have been in the church long enough to understand that not everyone that calls Jesus Lord will enter His heavenly home. For said He,
“MANY WILL SAY TO ME IN THAT DAY, LORD, LORD, HAVE WE NOT PROPHESIED IN THY NAME? AND IN THY NAME HAVE CAST OUT DEVILS? AND IN THY NAME DONE MANY WONDERFUL WORKS? AND THEN WILL I PROFESS UNTO THEM, I NEVER KNEW YOU: DEPART FROM ME, YE THAT WORK INIQUITY” (Mat 7:22-23).

Beloved,
● how long have you been in the church, and
● what gospel have you been made to believe?
I hope it is not one that will put your eternity in serious jeop uk on these things and heed the warning of God from a sincere believer.

I have not been in the church for a long time but I desire to be with the Master; my loving Saviour and my Lord throughout eternity. How about you. Think about this and check up your life. Are u truly one of the serious, the spiritual and the sincere. If not adjust and REPENT BEFORE IT IS TOO LATE. Copied

It doesn’t Matter

*Biology says that after sexual intercourse, about 200 to 300 million sperms are deposited by d man, they all begin to swim upwards within the tract to meet with the ovum. Of the over 200 million that are deposited, only 300 to 500 actually reach the site( others get tired on the way because it is not a small race). And of the 300 that manage to reach the ovum(egg), only one fertilizes the egg, and in this case the Winning One was YOU. Have u ever thought about this? You ran a race without your eyes and you won, you ran without education and you won, you ran without a certificate and you won, you ran without help…..and you won. What makes you think you will lose now? Now that you have both eyes and legs, now that you have a certificate, now that you have a plan, a dream and a vision. Beloved, you didn’t give up on day one, you can’t give up now, giving up now is an insult to your creator. It doesn’t matter what you see now, take it as a challenge, always remember that you WON from the womb. Better days ahead…. You’ll all smile soon, let’s keep hope alive.
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* I am the “7%”*

_This is something we should all read at least once a week!!!!! Make sure you read to the end!!!!!!_

_Written by *Regina Brett*, 90 years old, of the Plain b Dealer, Cleveland , Ohio_

_To celebrate growing older, I once wrote few lessons life taught me. It is the most requested column I’ve ever written._

1. *Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good.*

2. *When in doubt, just take the next small step.*

3. *Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and family will.*

4. *You don’t have to win every argument. Stay true to yourself.*

5. *Cry with someone. It’s more healing than crying alone.*

6. *It’s OK to get angry with God. He can take it.*

7. *Make peace with your past so it won’t mess up the present.*

8. *Don’t compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.*

9. *Take a deep breath every now and then. It calms the mind.*

10. *Get rid of anything that isn’t useful. Clutter weighs you down in many ways.*

11. *Whatever doesn’t kill you really does make you stronger.*

12. *It’s never too late to be happy. But it’s all up to you and no one else.*

13. *When it comes to going after what you love in life, don’t take no for an answer.*

14. *Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy clothes. Don’t save it for a special occasion. Today is special.*

15. *No one is in charge of your happiness but you.*

16. *Frame every so-called disaster with these words ‘In five years, will this matter?’*

17. *Always choose life.*

18. *Forgive others and yourself.*

19. *What other people think of you is none of your business.*

20. *Time heals almost everything. Give time a little time.*

21. *However good or bad a situation is, it will change.*

22. *Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.*

23. *Believe in miracles.*

24. *God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did or didn’t do.*

25. *Don’t audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.*

26. *Growing old beats the alternative of dying young.*

27. *Your children get only one childhood.*

28. *All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.*

29. *Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.*

30. *Envy is waste of time. Accept what you already have, not what you need.*

31. *The best is yet to come…*

32. *No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.*

33. *Life isn’t tied with a bow, but it’s still a gift.”*

_Its estimated that 93% won’t share this. If you are one of the *7%* who will, share this with the title ‘7%’._

_I’m in the 7%. Friends are the family and family is best friends that you choose._

Food for thought;WE WILL NEVER SERVE YOUR GOD

(A Must Read For Every Pastor & Parents)

At her father’s funeral the pastor’s daughter (who was a prostitute) watched and listened as church members described all wonderful deeds done by the pastor of 10,000 capacity church and worldwide television ministry.
They spoke about his care, love, generosity, miracles, signs and wonders and tenderness when he was alive.
But after the funeral the daughter of the late pastor asked her siblings and her mother – who was that man those people were talking about at the funeral – is he the same man that raised us?
They must be telling lies. All the children including Jack (a drug addict) agreed that they were telling lies.
But their mother said they were not telling lies,
YOUR FATHER WAS A GOOD PASTOR, BUT A BAD HUSBAND AND BAD FATHER,
HE GROOMED AND GREW THE CHURCH BUT LEFT HIS FAMILY GROANING.
FIRE WAS IN HIS BONE TO WORK FOR GOD, BUT LOVE, AFFECTION AND INTIMACY WAS NEVER IN HIS MIND FOR HIS FAMILY,
I WAS HIS WIFE, CHURCH WAS HIS MISTRESS, HE LOVED THE MISTRESS AND ABANDONED HIS WIFE,
HE WON THE CHURCH BUT LOST HIS FAMILY, WHAT A SHAME!
The children later wrote and placed on his tomb:
DAD, YOU PASTORED AND NURTURED THEM BUT ABANDONED US,
DAD, YOU DID A LOT OF REVIVAL PROGRAMS BUT YOUR FAMILY IS NEVER REVIVED,
DAD, YOU COUNSELED THEM, BUT WE LIVED WITHOUT COUNSEL,
DAD, YOU WERE A SHEPHERD BUT WE LIVED WITHOUT A PASTURE, YOU SHOWED THEM LOVE, BUT WE LIVED IN THE DESERT OF AFFECTION.
DAD, YOU WERE A SUCCESSFUL PASTOR, COUNSELOR, BUT A TOTAL FAILURE AS A HUSBAND AND FATHER.
DAD, WE HARDLY KNOW THAT YOU ARE DEAD, BECAUSE YOU WERE NEVER THERE FOR US.
THIS ONE THING WE PROMISE YOU, WE WILL NEVER SERVE YOUR GOD.
(Share it until it gets to every pastor and Church leaders, many pastor families are hurting, please save one).

Dealing with frustrated people………*

There was a viral photo today on the social media depicting a man who died at onigbongbo bus stop Maryland. Story behind the pix of the dead man goes thus…

“A danfo brush his car, and this man left his car, remove his shoes and ran after the danfo, he try to hold the bus but the conductor push him away and another danfo coming hit him on his head and that was the end.”

This I can relate to the 2 scenarios below:

Scenario 1:
Two men were involved in a road rage in the ever busy Nyanya road in Abuja. One brushed the other’s car without intention and without knowing.

The fellow whose car was brushed pursued the other fellow, blocked him, came out of his car with his wheel spanner and commenced to break the head lamp of the other fellow.

The other man refused to come out of his car, allowed the man in utter rage to satisfy himself and drove off. It cost N100,000.00 for him to fix his head lamp…but he is still alive.

Scenario 2:
A staff of the National Assembly, in an attempt to avoid knocking down an Okada rider who was driving against the traffic, rammed his car into a stationary vehicle.

He came out of his car and engaged the cyclist in a hot argument. Unknown to him the cyclist was armed with a knife, with which he stabbed the motorist to death and rode away. The motorist is dead and his family is mourning.

Advice:

There is so much Anger, Mental trauma and Lawlessness in the country right now.
As much as possible avoid arguments with strangers and when it happens, don’t allow it to degenerate into scuffle or violence.
As quickly as possible, leave the scene.

• Note that the Nigerian legal system is still too weak to bring ALL criminals to justice.
Moreover, no level of justice can bring you back to life…

Pls, Your loved ones still need you. 😊#Let‘s Be Careful To Stay Alive!copied

Declare Victory

What are you saying about your family? What are you saying about your finances? What are you saying about your future? Pls make sure the words you are sending are in the direction you want your life to go.

You may be in a difficult time right now, but let me challenge you. Don’t use your words to describe the situation. Use your words to change the situation. Declare victory. Declare health. Declare favor. Declare abundance.

You give life to your faith by what you say. When you wake up in the morning and look in the mirror instead of getting depressed, you need to smile and say Good morning beautiful/handsome, you blessed, prosperous, successful, strong, talented, creative, confident secure, focused, highly favored child of the most high God.” Get it on the inside and speak faith over your future

God bless you.

Don’t stop

When you go through disappointment, when you go through a loss, don’t stop on that page. Keep moving forward. There`s another chapter in front of you, but you have to be willing to walk into it.

Sometimes we focus too long on trying to figure on why something didn’t work out the way we wanted, you may not understand everything you’ve been through. But if you’ll just keep pressing forward, not letting the bitterness take root, you will come to a chapter in your future that will pull it all together, you may have issues or challenges that you don’t understand, if you will stay in faith, before long you will see how every setback, every disappointment was simply another piece of your puzzle. You may also discover that if this issue or challenge had not happened you would not have become connected to the great things God has in your future.

You may not see it yet, but God has the right pieces to make your puzzle fit together. That puzzle may not make sense right now, but don’t be discouraged, there is another piece coming that will put it all together.

God bless you.

Vow

This was the beginning of a new me, the process of change, redemption, salvation or simply put, Getting closer to God.

My daughter was born on the 3rd of March 2002, 5 months and 2 weeks of pregnancy. She was premature. I had just finished my overnight or 2nd job as a bouncer in a club in Germany.

She weighed 790grams, not even 1kg. On seeing her tiny structure inside the incubator, I cried like I never cried before. I asked God, why, why me? After crying out my heart, I realized only a miracle could save her.

She is the reason till today, why my faith in God is so strong. I laid my hands over her and prayed. I did not know what to pray about, but I prayed my pains onto God and begged God not to allow my sins/punishment for my numerous transgressions be passed unto my little girl.

I made a vow to God. 3 days later I went and paid the vow to my Church to be passed unto the poor and needy. My Pastor prayed with me. I prayed that my daughter would leave that Hospital without complications hence the vow/deal with God.

My daughter is 14+ years old now, straight A student, speaks 3 international languages already, and she left that Hospital without complications.

What else can I say? My pain as I saw it then was actually God’s way of drawing me closer to come to know him and have faith in him to prepare me for the movement that was to come. This was the day that the destiny of Judo Movement was redirected from waywardness back to the narrow path of Christ.

Jesus saves!
Jesus still heals!
Render your hearts to Him today and commit whatever that may sounds so difficult to you unto Him today. He’s there to always answer us when we call on Him.copied

God bless.

Food for thought

There were two houses standing next to each other. In one of them resided a very unhappy family. The spouses yelled at each other, they fought and quarreled all the time. The other was a place of happiness and calm.

During one of the fights a wife asked her husband:

“Did you ever hear them quarrel or yell over at that house? No!

So, go there and see what they do to avoid it!”

The husband stood at the window of his neighbors and watched. There they were busy doing their own thing. The wife was in the kitchen cooking, and the man sat at the table writing. The phone rang, and the man jumped up and headed to the hallway to get it.

On his way he bumped into a vase, it fell and broke. He got down to his knees and started picking up the pieces. The wife ran into the room from the kitchen. She also kneeled down and started helping her husband to pick them up.

The man said to his wife:

“I am so sorry. I rushed to get the phone and bumped into the vase. It fell and got broken.”

The wife replied:

“No, honey, it is my fault. I put it there on the way. That’s why you bumped into it.”
They kissed, and that was over. Both got back to what they were doing.

The man who watched them returned to his wife. She wanted to know what the secret of their happiness was.

What he said was fantastic:

“I know it now. In their family they both are guilty and in our family both of us are always right!”

That’s the secret of family happiness!

Food for thought.

The “trick” isn’t in not wanting to take responsibility, but rather in not claiming right.

There are times you need to forfeit your right to win your peace: depends on which you cherish most.

This recipe is applicable, not only in the home, but also at work and in all relationships. #BenCarson#

Kindness

A man was driving his car, when he saw an old lady, stranded on the side of the road. He saw that she needed help. So he stopped his Pontiac near her Mercedes and got out.

He smiled, while he was approaching her, still she was worried, as nobody had stopped for hours. Moreover, he did not look safe, as his appearance was so poor and shabby. He could see, how frightened she was, so he tried to calm her: “I‘m here to help you, don‘t worry. My name is Bryan Anderson“.

The tire was flat, so he had to crawl under the car. While changing the tire, he got dirty and his hands were hurt.

When the job was done, she asked how much she owed him for his help. Bryan smiled. He said: „If you really want to pay me back, the next time you see someone, who needs help, give that person the needed assistance. And think of me“.

At the same evening, the lady stopped by a small cafe. That place looked dingy. Then she saw a waitress, nearly eight months pregnant, wiping her wet hair with a towel. The waitress had a sweet friendly smile, although she had spent on her feet the whole day.

The lady wondered how someone, who has so little, can be so kind and giving to a stranger. Then she remembered Bryan.

The lady had finished her meal and paid with a hundred dollar bill. The waitress went to get change and when she came back, the lady was gone. She left a note on the napkin: “You don‘t owe me anything. Somebody once helped me, just like now I‘m helping you. If you really want to pay me back, do not let this chain of love end with you“. The waitress found four more one hundred bills under the napkin.

That night the waitress came home earlier. She was thinking about the lady and the money she left. She was wondering, how the lady could know, how much she and her husband needed it, especially now, when the baby will soon arrive. She knew that her husband worried about that, so she was glad to tell him good news. Then she kissed him and whispered, “Now everything will be all right. I love you, Bryan Anderson“.copied

Arguments

My husband is an Engineer by profession, I love him for his steady nature, and I love the warm feeling when I lean against his broad shoulders.

Three years of courtship and now, two years into marriage, I would have to admit, that I am getting tired of it. The reasons of me loving him before, has now transformed into the cause of all my restlessness.

I am a sentimental woman and extremely sensitive when it comes to a relationship and my feelings, I yearn for the romantic moments, like a little girl yearning for candy. My husband, is my complete opposite, his lack of sensitivity, and the inability of bringing romantic moments into our marriage has disheartened me about love.

One day, I finally decided to tell him my decision, that I wanted a divorce.

“Why?” he asked, shocked. “I am tired, there are no reasons for everything in the world!” I answered. He kept silent the whole night, seems to be in deep thought with a lighted cigarette at all times. My feeling of disappointment only increased, here was a man who can’t even express his predicament, what else can I hope from him? And finally he asked me: ”What can I do to change your mind?”

Somebody said it right, it’s hard to change a person’s personality, and I guess, I have started losing faith in him. Looking deep into his eyes I slowly answered: “Here is the question, if you can answer and convince my heart, I will change my mind, Let’s say, I want a flower located on the face of a mountain cliff, and we both are sure that picking the flower will cause your death, will you do it for me?” He said: ”I will give you your answer tomorrow….” My hopes just sank by listening to his response.

I woke up the next morning to find him gone, and saw a piece of paper with his scratchy handwriting, underneath a milk glass, on the dining table near the front door, that goes: My dear, “I would not pick that flower for you, but please allow me to explain the reasons further…” This first line was already breaking my heart. I continued reading.

“When you use the computer you always mess up the Software programs, and you cry in front of the screen, I have to save my fingers so that I can help to restore the programs. You always leave the house keys behind, thus I have to save my legs to rush home to open the door for you. You love traveling but always lose your way in a new city, I have to save my eyes to show you the way. You always have the cramps whenever your “good friend” approaches every month, I have to save my palms so that I can calm the cramps in your tummy.

You like to stay indoors, and I worry that you will be infected by infantile autism. I have to save my mouth to tell you jokes and stories to cure your boredom. You always stare at the computer, and that will do nothing good for your eyes, I have to save my eyes so that when we grow old, I can help to clip your nails, and help to remove those annoying white hairs. So I can also hold your hand while strolling down the beach, as you enjoy the sunshine and the beautiful sand and tell you the color of flowers, just like the color of the glow on your young face. Thus, my dear, unless I am sure that there is someone who loves you more than I do I could not pick that flower yet, and die…”

My tears fell on the letter, and blurred the ink of his handwriting and as I continue on reading. “Now, that you have finished reading my answer, if you are satisfied, please open the front door for I am standing outside bringing your favorite bread and fresh milk.” I rush to pull open the door, and saw his anxious face, clutching tightly with his hands, the milk bottle and loaf of bread.

Now I am very sure that no one will ever love me as much as he does, and I have decided to leave the flower alone.

That’s life, and love. When one is surrounded by love, the feeling of excitement fades away, and one tends to ignore the true love that lies in between the peace and dullness.

Love shows up in all forms, even very small and cheeky forms, it has never been a model, it could be the most dull and boring form. Flowers and romantic moments are only used and appear on the surface of the relationship. Under all this, the pillar of true love stands and that’s our life Love, not words win arguments.

I will never stop believing

They tell me the road ends here, but not my road. I define where my road will take me,where my journey ends. Sure challenges awaits me, obstacles will stand in my way and moments of doubt will appear. But i will never stop believing, magic can be created, dreams can be made true. Through determination and perspiration, this drives for progress which defines my journey into the possible. Every decision is mine to make. Every challenge is mine to take. And they all serve to make me stronger. To make the end goal even more amazing.To get even closer to my dream, possibilities favor the fearless. step forward. Dare to dream,make it possible.copied