Wherever there is Love, there is also Wealth and Success!!!!!!”

 

 

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A woman came out of her house and saw 3 old men with long white beards sitting in her front yard. She did not recognize them. She said “I don’t think I know you, but you must be hungry. Please come in and have something to eat.”

“Is the man of the house home?”, they asked.

“No”, she replied. “He’s out.”

“Then we cannot come in”, they replied.

In the evening when her husband came home, she told him what had happened.

“Go tell them I am home and invite them in!”

The woman went out and invited the men in”

“We do not go into a House together,” they replied.

“Why is that?” she asked.

One of the old men explained: “His name is Wealth,” he said pointing to one of his friends, and said pointing to another one, “He is Success, and I am Love.” Then he added, “Now go in and discuss with your husband which one of us you want in your home.”

The woman went in and told her husband what was said. Her husband was overjoyed. “How nice!!”, he said. “Since that is the case, let us invite Wealth. Let him come and fill our home with wealth!”

His wife disagreed. “My dear, why don’t we invite Success?”
Their daughter-in-law was listening from the other corner of the house. She jumped in with her own suggestion: “Would it not be better to invite Love? Our home will then be filled with love!”

“Let us heed our daughter-in-law’s advice,” said the husband to his wife.

“Go out and invite Love to be our guest.”

The woman went out and asked the 3 old men, “Which one of you is Love? Please come in and be our guest.”

Love got up and started walking toward the house. The other 2 also got up and followed him. Surprised, the lady asked Wealth and Success: “I only invited Love, Why are you coming in?”

The old men replied together: “If you had invited Wealth or Success, the other two of us would’ve stayed out, but since you invited Love, wherever He goes, we go with him.

MY WISH FOR YOU…
-Where there is pain, I wish you peace and mercy.
-Where there is self-doubting, I wish you a renewed confidence in your ability to work through it.
-Where there is tiredness, or exhaustion, I wish you understanding, patience, and renewed strength.
-Where there is fear, I wish you love, and courage.

My Dear Nigerian Youths”, by Prof. Isa.

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I am very angry and that is why I am addressing you.

You are the source of my anger and I want to vent my spleen- maybe not at you directly- but at the arrogance of your ignorance.

You sit in front of a computer and rant all day through social media but with every click, you make money – not for yourself – but for Mark Zuckerberg (Facebook).

With every megabyte of data you spend complaining and maligning, you make stupendous bucks for MTN, Etisalat, Glo and Airtel.

Over the next two years, the number of Nigerian millionaires will jump by 47% but most likely you will not be among because you are too busy whining and complaining. And yet about 60% of Nigeria’s 170m population are below 35 years. Oh, what a waste! By the way, Mark Zuckerberg was 19 when he started Facebook.

Africa’s youngest billionaire, Ashish Thakkar, is 31. He escaped from the Rwandan genocide and relocated to Uganda where he started an IT business.

Collin Thornton, who made his millions by fixing bad computers and setting up Dial-a-Nerd, is 35.

Adam Horowitz, an 18-year-old entrepreneur, started 30 websites in 3 years before he became successful.

The only thing you have ever started is an online petition. Have you heard of Jason Njoku? He’s 33 and the founder of Iroko TV. He received $8m investment into his company just a few years ago. What he does? Sharing the same Nollywood films that you spend hours to watch online. He didn’t just hang around waiting for Buhari to make something happen or blaming Jonathan for not making anything happen.

Kamal Budhabhatti was deported from Kenya but while on the flight, he thought of the opportunities in Kenya. He found his way back after 6 months and today his company is valued at $30m. He’s 36.

Have you heard of Chinedu Echeruo? Apple just paid $1b for his app. He’s a Nigerian like you and all he did was attempt to fix a problem. But for you, the only thing you attempt to fix are your nails- and your hairdo! Chinedu moved to New York in 1995 and found it difficult to navigate the city with ease so he developed HopStop to fix the problem.

Stop listing all the problems – we know them already but what are you doing about them?

Awolowo was 37, Akintola was 36, Ahmadu Bello was 36, Tafawa Balewa was 34, Okotie-Eboh was 27 and Enahoro was 27 at the time of independence of Nigeria.

You are in your 40s and you still sag your trousers.

Of course, you know Linda Ikeji. You’ve spent hundreds of hours on her blog laughing and commenting while she smiles her way to the bank.

She’s just built a house for her father in the village- just by you clicking on her gossip and sharing.

Your day is not complete without a stop by at her blog. She was as broke as you are but she turned a hobby into a business.

Are you that void of understanding?

You think those politicians have any regard for you?

That is why I referred to the arrogance of your ignorance, at the beginning of this diatribe.

You have a false estimation of yourself. You have an over-bloated ego.

You are only as good as an election ticket – pure and simple. You are only good to be used and discarded like used ballot paper. Who keeps used ballot paper anyway? That is why they only remember you every four years.

The word CHANGE belongs to the masses not to selected few.

YOU NEED ENEMIES

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While I was pondering about life, I discovered that:
Sometimes, to succeed in life you need ENEMIES! Yes!
You need people who will mock you, so that you can run to God. You need people who will try to intimidate you, so that you can be courageous.
You need people who will say “NO” so that you can learn how to be independent…I mean how to do it yourself.
You need people who will disappoint you so that you can put all your trust in God alone.
You need people who will work towards you loosing that job, so that you can start your own big business.
You need people who will sell your ‘Joseph’ so that ‘you’ can get to Egypt and be a Prime Minister in a strange land of captivity
You need a cruel landlord, so that you won’t be too comfortable in someone else’s house, then you can build your own house on time.
But sometimes, when we are disappointed, we feel very bad and we tend to remain on that spot. Not knowing that the end-point of disappointment is the beginning of your accomplishments.
Understand this, “that every disappointment you once had came with a blessing!” However, it is not everyone that partakes in this blessing that I’m talking about.
You cannot see a new OPEN door while you are still putting all your attention, time and energy in trying to force the closed one to open.
And again I say, “No disappointment can ever come without an attached blessing!” So, when the disappointment come, thank God for it and tell “HIM” to open your eyes to see the new blessing that HE has for you!
Disappointment is PHASE1 while accomplishment is PHASE2. I doubt if one can jump the protocols. That is why it is called BREAKTHROUGH Something must BREAK so that you can go THROUGH! Have a wonderful day🍞

Consider this scenario:

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You were eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocked over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You harshly scolded your daughter for knocking the coffee cup over. She broke down in tears. After scolding her, you turned to your wife and criticized her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle followed. You stormed upstairs and changed your shirt. Back downstairs you found your daughter had been too busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She eventually missed the school bus. Your wife must leave immediately for work. You rushed to the car and drove your daughter to school. Because you were late, you drove 80km/hr on a 60km/hr speed limit. After a 15 minute delay and eventually having to pay a traffic fine, you arrived at your daughter’s school. Your daughter ran into the school premises without saying good-bye. You arrived at your office 20 minutes late only to discover you forgot your briefcase at home. Your day has started terribly already. As it continued, it seemed to get worse and worse. You transfered the aggression on your customers and subordinates in the office. You looked forward to going home. When you arrived home, you found a small wedge in your relationship with your wife and daughter because of how you reacted in the morning.

The question now is, what or who created the bad day?
A) The coffee
B) Your daughter
C) Your wife
D) The road safety officer
E) You

The answer is You. Yes, you!

You had no control over what happened with the coffee, but YOUR REACTION to the little scenario created the bad day.

HERE IS WHAT SHOULD HAVE HAPPENED:
Coffee splashed over you.

Your daughter was about to cry.

You gently said “It’s OK honey, you just need to be more careful next time”.

You rushed upstairs, grab a new shirt and your briefcase.

You came downstairs in time, looked through the window and saw your child getting into the school bus.

She turned and waved.

You and your wife kissed before you both went to work.

You arrived 5 minutes early and cheerfully greeted staff.

Your boss commented on how good a day you were having.

Do you notice the difference?

Two different scenarios both started the same way, but ended differently.

Why?

Because of YOUR REACTION.

You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% is determined by YOUR REACTION.

HERE ARE SOME WAYS TO APPLY THE PRINCIPLE.

1.) If someone says something negative about you, don’t be upset. Let the attack roll off like water on glass. You don’t have to let the negative comment affect you. React properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend or relationship, being fired, getting stressed out, etc.

2.) How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you lose your temper? Pound the steering wheel till it falls off? Do you curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket? Do you try and bump them? Remember the 90/10 principle, and do not worry about it.

3.) You were told you lost your job. Must you lose your life as well? Use your “worrying” energy and time into finding another job. Everything will normalize again.

4.) The plane is late. It is going to mangle your schedule for the day. Why take out your frustration on the flight attendant? She has no control over what is going on. Use your time to study, get to know the other passengers, etc. Why get stressed out? It will only make things worse…

Now you know the 90/10 principle. Never waste time laying emphasis on what went wrong, or who should be blamed, activate the “solution mode” immediately.

I read this and I was impressed….

NEVER GIVE UP ON GOD, NEVER GIVE UP ON YOURSELF.!!!

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If I’ve learned anything from life, it’s that sometimes, the darkest times can bring us to the brightest places. I’ve learned that the most toxic people can teach us the most important lessons; that our most painful struggles can grant us the most necessary growth; and that the most heartbreaking losses of friendship and love can make room for the most wonderful people.

I’ve learned that what seems like a curse in the moment can actually be a blessing, and that what seems like the end of the road is actually just the discovery that we are meant to travel down a different path. I’ve learned that no matter how difficult things seem, there is always hope.

And I’ve learned that no matter how powerless we feel or how horrible things seem, we can’t give up. We have to keep going. Even when it’s scary, even when all of our strength seems gone, we have to keep picking ourselves back up and moving forward, because whatever we’re battling in the moment, it will pass, and we will make it through.

We’ve made it this far. We can make it through whatever comes next.

It’s a MUST read for self development!

1. Make friends with successful people and occasionally buy them gift and surprise them with lunch because successful people always give and hardly get, so when you give them, they value the gift a lot.

2. Get a mentor and follow his instructions and respect the relationship. Never beg your mentor for money or disrespect his or her privacy.
3. Make new positive friends as often as possible and ensure you keep the communication line open. Create a network of friends and not just connections.
5. Show kindness to everyone. Some small boys today will be big boys tomorrow. The biggest dog in the neighborhood was once a puppy. And keep the information/secret to yourself.
6. Always plan ahead and be proactive. He that plans the future works less in the future!
7. Listen to speeches and messages from great teachers. Both religious and educational.
8. Attend seminars and training on any area you need to improve yourself. Train the trainer, personal development, public speaking, sales acumen etc.
9. Have the habit of keeping a pen and a writing pad handy because ideas come in the form of flashes. The smallest pen is bigger and better than the biggest brain!
10. Make sure at every point in time you are reading a book. If you spend 20 minutes reading daily, for 52 weeks you would have consumed 1,000,000 words (of wisdom)!
11.Stay away from television as much as possible. You can watch educational channels. Men with big TV sit in front of them to watch men with big library.
12 Put control over your mouth, never say evil of any man, what you are not certain of should not be said. Say good of all men!
13. Always show appreciation for any good deed you received.
14. Always help someone in need.
15. Live a debt free life. What you can’t pay cash for is not your size!
16. Give out loans that you can part with as gift, so that you don’t destroy your business and relationship.
17.Create multiple source of income.
18. Save at least 10 percent of your income.
19. Invest a portion of your income. And be patient to see it grow. If what you have in your hands is not good to be called a harvest then it’s a seed, sow it!
20. Keep a good financial record of all income and expenses, so you won’t ask later “where did my money go?”
21. Be involved in community service e.g. Control traffic, free lesson class for students etc.
22. Keep getting better on your daily goals and dream, develop yourself on them and make sure you get to the top 10% of your industry.
23. Make sure you engage in exercise. It keeps your brain alert and your body fit to enjoy your success.
24. Pray often, and know that for every success, there is a stronger being that made it possible.

Words of wisdom

dNever break the pot that once gave you water.

Never bite the hands that once fed you.

Never despise the home that once gave you shelter.
Never punch holes in the umbrella that once gave you cover.

Never insult the breasts that once gave you pleasure. Be careful how you close a door.

Never ever bang it, you may need to walk through that same door tomorrow.

The Holy Alphabet.

The Holy Alphabet… This is Beautiful.
Whoever came up with this one must have been filled with the Holy Spirit!
A lthough things are not perfect,
B ecause of trial or pain,
C ontinue in thanksgiving
D on’t even think to blame .
E ven when the times are hard,
F ierce winds are bound to blow,
G od is forever able
H old on to Jesus .
I magine life without His love,
J oy would cease to be,
K eep thanking Him for all the things
L ove imparts you to see.
M ove out of Complaining ‘,
No weapon that is known
O n earth can yield the power
P raise can do alone.
Q uit worrying about the future,
R edeem the time at hand,
S tart every day with prayer
To ‘thank’ is God’s command.
U ntil we see Him coming,
V ictorious in the sky,
W e’ll run the race with gratitude,
X alting God most high.
Y es, there’ll be good times and yes some will be
bad, but…
Z ion waits in glory…where none are ever sad!
The one who kneels to the Lord can stand up to
anything..
Love and peace be with you forever, Amen.
Pls: GOD LOVES YOU…PASS THE WORD ON TO
MORE FRIENDS AND ASK THEM TO CONTINUE
TELLING OTHERS THAT GOD LOVES THEM AND
HIS SON IS THE ONLY WAY TO SALVATION TOO.
JUST THINK OF HOW MANY PEOPLE THAT
COULD BE REACHED OUT AND BLESSED WITH
THESE WORDS.

Never give up no matter how hard it gets.

At Age 5, his Father died

At age 16, he quit school

At age 17 he had already lost four jobs

Between 18 and 22, he was a railroad conductor and failed.

He joined the army and washed out there.

He applied for law school but was rejected.

He became an insurance sales man and failed again.

At age 19 he became a father

At age 20, his wife left him taking their children with her, because he couldn’t hold a job.

He became a cook and dishwasher in a small cafe.

He eventually convinced his wife to return home.

At age 65 he retired.

On the 1st day of retirement he received a cheque from the Government for $105.

He felt that the Government was saying that he couldn’t provide for himself.

He decided to commit suicide, it wasnt’ worth living anymore; he had failed so much.

He sat under a tree writing his will, but instead, he wrote what he would have accomplished with his life. He realized there was much more that he hadn’t done. There was one thing he could do better than anyone he knew and that was how to COOK.

so he borrowed $87 against his cheque and bought and fried up some chicken using his recipe, and went door to door to sell them to his neighbors in Kentucky.

Remember at age 65, he was ready to commit suicide but at age 88 Colonel Sanders founder of Kentucky Fried Chicken Empire was a billionaire.

Colonel Sanders (1890-1980) created the Kentucky Fried Chicken fast food chain at the age of 66. Pride in his product, high standards, and brilliant marketing help to establish him as an innovator in the fast food industry.

It is Never too Late to start all over. Never give up no matter how hard it gets.

You have what it takes to be successful. Go for it and make a difference

Is the Driver your Father

There’s an old story of the boy who stood on a
sidewalk, waiting for a bus. A man walking by spotted
the boy & gave him some gentle instruction. “Son,”
he said, “if you’re waiting for the bus you need to
move to the street corner. That’s where the bus stops
for passengers.”
“It’s OK,” said the boy. “I’ll just wait right here & the
bus will stop for me.” The man repeated his
argument, but the boy never moved. Just then, the
bus appeared. Amazingly, the bus pulled over to
where the boy stood & he hopped on. The man on
the sidewalk stood speechless. The boy turned
around in the doorway & said, “Mister, I knew the
bus would stop here, bcos the bus driver is my dad!”
When you’ve got a family relationship with the bus
driver, you don’t need a bus stop. If you’ve given your
heart to the King of Kings, you’re in a royal family of
unspeakable proportions.
Today I would like to remind you that when you know
the Driver of life you can take the bus of life
anywhere. He will stop & pick you up where people
thought it is not possible.
Whether some are thinking that you are not in the
right frame of mind, or the right status or the right
career to succeed but this will change when the
success giver is your father & friend.
Whether you are unemployed, broke, single or
married, or childless or divorced, or widowed. What
matters is that you know Him who is able to do
exceedingly abundantly above what we can think or
even imagine.
However, the BIG question is : “Is the Driver your
Father?” “Are you (still) His child? You can only get
that privilege if He is your Father. He can bypass
protocols because you are His child. He has done it
before. He can do it AGAIN & AGAIN. And guess
what? It does not matter what ANYBODY feels or
thinks.
Enjoy the ride with your Father.

 

Truth is a gift

Dr. Daniel Hahn, in a book entitled , says the consequences of our choices typically fall into two categories- Natural and Logical. Natural consequences are those outcome that come “naturally” from our decisions based on our response to truth. The doctor says stop drinking and you can reverse your liver damage. Don’t stop, and you may die in few years. If you spend your money on this, you won’t have money for that.

Some natural consequences take years to materialize, You can plant an acorn and the growth will be almost imperceptible for a while. But given enough time in good soil, a tree will grow. Those are natural consequences. Spiritually, relationally and in character issues, the natural consequences may take a while to appear, so we can deny or refuse to recognize truth. and in the short term, some very bad decisions and truly evil people appear to be winning. drug abuse can be exciting – for a while. Cheating doesn’t seem all that bad—for a while. But the truth is, results are coming. Those decisions will bring the results truth says they will.

Logical consequences are immediate, obvious consequences used to shape behavior and teach an appreciation and respect for truth. it’s the kind of thing parents could use to teach a child financial wisdom. Parents don’t let the logical consequences play out in order to punish their children or make them fail. they use the truth and consequences to enable success in the long run.

God has set the law of truth and consequences, reaping what you sow, into the universe, As a wise and loving Father, He also uses logical consequences from time to time to help us respect His truth. He doesn’t want to pay you back, but bring you back.” Back to the absolute truth that will save you.

God’s gift of love to us is absolute truth.When we neglect,reject, or drift away from truth, we unwittingly choose the consequences that are an essential part of truth. Then some morning we will wake up, rub our eyes, and shake our heads in disbelief at the place our ”Truth” has taken us. He wants His absolute and unchanging truth to protect and provide for us, not punish us.

Truth. It’s absolute. It’s a gift. It has the power to set us free, and then to teach us and guide us where we need to go.

Why should you pray for your husband

When you break the curse, the blessings will flow, Prosperity and Growth is of God, Not every movement is forward movement, there is some movement you are just swinging, you will be going round and round in circle. I don’t know who is not making any headway, but I want to tell you that the Lord takes pleasure in the prosperity of his servant. Psalm 35:27, in 3rd John 1:2 said I wish above all thing that you prosper.

When a man prosper, God is happy, He announces God’s name. When you look good the person you are preaching to have hope. When your husband prospers he provides for his family, therefore saving him from being worse than an infidel,

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You are his help-meet: you are built in such a way that when a man enter your life, he has no choice but to prosper, the mistake he made was to marry you, but he has to prosper spiritually, financially, physically and in his body, somebody said what if he is a foolish man, Abigail married a foolish man, but that man has resources enough for David to ask him of, so it doesn’t matter if he is a foolish man, he has to prosper.

When you see a great man there is a woman, she is somewhere propping him, she is his chair leader, telling him my husband, go forward. Without you he is not complete, and so you were brought to complete him and not to bring him down. Woman! don’t be a destiny waster, if you don’t know how to pray, you are a prey.

What are the things that a woman do that bring hindrances to her husband’s prosperity?
– Talking too much; don’t talk too much, there are some things you need to keep quiet about until it happens.
– Talking down on your husband; when you talk down on your husband, he will not fly, he will cower. Allow him to be the man, don’t smother him, and let him make mistakes.
– Don’t be too lazy to pray for your husband; Abigail did not wait for her husband, she took her offering and laid it down for David on behalf of her husband.
– Infidelity in the woman; when you cheat on that man, you kill him spiritually, then physically, he becomes a vegetable and you becomes the witch in his life.

When you have illicit sex, it’s an altar for demonic performance, it’s an altar given worship to the devil and demonic attacks, when you have illicit sex, you open the door for the wicked one and the strong man, your spirituality is gone, the bible says, the bed of marriage is undefiled therefore Do not negotiate with the enemy. That’s why people like Esther stood and said if I perish!!! Pls Don’t Compromise… when you do that, you truncate destinies yet unborn.

From WWP…

what can i do to make your day better

By Richard Paul Evans

My oldest daughter, Jenna, recently said to me, “My greatest fear as a child was that you and mom would get divorced. Then, when I was 12, I decided that you fought so much that maybe it would be better if you did.” Then she added with a smile. “I’m glad you guys figured things out.”

For years, my wife, Keri, and I struggled. Looking back, I’m not exactly sure what initially drew us together, but our personalities didn’t quite match up. And the longer we were married the more extreme the differences seemed. Encountering “fame and fortune” didn’t make our marriage any easier. In fact, it exacerbated our problems. The tension between us got so bad that going out on book tour became a relief, though it seems we always paid for it on re-entry. Our fighting became so constant that it was difficult to even imagine a peaceful relationship. We became perpetually defensive, building emotional fortresses around our hearts. We were on the edge of divorce and more than once we discussed it.

I was on book tour when things came to a head. We had just had another big fight on the phone and Keri had hung up on me. I was alone and lonely, frustrated and angry. I had reached my limit.

That’s when I turned to God. Or turned on God. I don’t know if you could call it prayer—maybe shouting at God isn’t prayer, maybe it is—but whatever I was engaged in I’ll never forget it. I was standing in the shower of the Buckhead, Atlanta, Ritz-Carlton yelling at God that marriage was wrong and I couldn’t do it anymore. As much as I hated the idea of divorce, the pain of being together was just too much. I was also confused. I couldn’t figure out why marriage with Keri was so hard. Deep down I knew that Keri was a good person. And I was a good person. So why couldn’t we get along? Why had I married someone so different than me? Why wouldn’t she change?

Finally, hoarse and broken, I sat down in the shower and began to cry. In the depths of my despair powerful inspiration came to me. You can’t change her, Rick. You can only change yourself. At that moment I began to pray. If I can’t change her, God, then change me. I prayed late into the night. I prayed the next day on the flight home. I prayed as I walked in the door to a cold wife who barely even acknowledged me. That night, as we lay in our bed, inches from each other yet miles apart, the inspiration came. I knew what I had to do.

The next morning I rolled over in bed next to Keri and asked, “How can I make your day better?”

Keri looked at me angrily. “What?”

“How can I make your day better?”

“You can’t,” she said. “Why are you asking that?”

“Because I mean it,” I said. “I just want to know what I can do to make your day better.”

She looked at me cynically.

“You want to do something? Go clean the kitchen.”

She likely expected me to get mad. Instead I just nodded. “Okay.”

I got up and cleaned the kitchen.

The next day I asked the same thing. “What can I do to make your day better?”

Her eyes narrowed. “Clean the garage.”

I took a deep breath. I already had a busy day and I knew she had made the request in spite. I was tempted to blow up at her.

Instead I said, “Okay.” I got up and for the next two hours cleaned the garage. Keri wasn’t sure what to think. The next morning came.

“What can I do to make your day better?”

“Nothing!” she said. “You can’t do anything. Please stop saying that.” “I’m sorry,” I said. “But I can’t.”

I made a commitment to myself. “What can I do to make your day better?” “Why are you doing this?” “Because I care about you,” I said.

“And our marriage.” The next morning I asked again. And the next. And the next. Then, during the second week, a miracle occurred. As I asked the question Keri’s eyes welled up with tears. Then she broke down crying. When she could speak she said, “Please stop asking me that. You’re not the problem. I am. I’m hard to live with. I don’t know why you stay with me.”

I gently lifted her chin until she was looking in my eyes. “It’s because I love you,” I said. “What can I do to make your day better?” “I should be asking you that.” “You should,” I said. “But not now. Right now, I need to be the change. You need to know how much you mean to me.” She put her head against my chest. “I’m sorry I’ve been so mean.” “I love you,” I said. “I love you,” she replied. “What can I do to make your day better?” She looked at me sweetly. “Can we maybe just spend some time together?” I smiled. “I’d like that.” I continued asking for more than a month. And things did change. The fighting stopped. Then Keri began asking, “What do you need from me? How can I be a better wife?”

The walls between us fell. We began having meaningful discussions on what we wanted from life and how we could make each other happier. No, we didn’t solve all our problems. I can’t even say that we never fought again. But the nature of our fights changed. Not only were they becoming more and more rare, they lacked the energy they’d once had. We’d deprived them of oxygen. We just didn’t have it in us to hurt each other anymore.

Keri and I have now been married for more than 30 years. I not only love my wife, I like her. I like being with her. I crave her. I need her. Many of our differences have become strengths and the others don’t really matter. We’ve learned how to take care of each other, and, more importantly, we’ve gained the desire to do so. Marriage is hard. But so is parenthood and keeping fit and writing books and everything else important and worthwhile in my life. To have a partner in life is a remarkable gift. I’ve also learned that the institution of marriage can help heal us of our most unlovable parts. And we all have unlovable parts.

Through time I’ve learned that our experience was an illustration of a much larger lesson about marriage. The question everyone in a committed relationship should ask their significant other is, “What can I do to make your life better?” That is love. Romance novels (and I’ve written a few) are all about desire and happily-ever-after, but happily-ever-after doesn’t come from desire—at least not the kind portrayed in most pulp romances. Real love is not to desire a person, but to truly desire their happiness—sometimes, even, at the expense of our own happiness. Real love is not to make another person a carbon copy of one’s self. It is to expand our own capabilities of tolerance and caring, to actively seek another’s well being. All else is simply a charade of self-interest.

I’m not saying that what happened to Keri and me will work for everyone. I’m not even claiming that all marriages should be saved. But for me, I am incredibly grateful for the inspiration that came to me that day so long ago. I’m grateful that my family is still intact and that I still have my wife, my best friend, in bed next to me when I wake in the morning. And I’m grateful that even now, decades later, every now and then, one of us will still roll over and say, “What can I do to make your day better.” Being on either side of that question is something worth waking up for.

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1. Make friends with successful people and occasionally buy them gift and surprise them with lunch because successful people always give and hardly get, so when you give them, they value the gift a lot.
2. Get a mentor and follow his instructions and respect the relationship. Never beg your mentor for money or disrespect his or her privacy.
3. Make new positive friends as often as possible and ensure you keep the communication line open. Create a network of friends and not just connections.
5. Show kindness to everyone. Some small boys today will be big boys tomorrow. The biggest dog in the neighborhood was once a puppy. And keep the information/secret to yourself.
6. Always plan ahead and be proactive. He that plans the future works less in the future!
7. Listen to speeches and messages from great teachers. Both religious and educational.
8. Attend seminars and training on any area you need to improve yourself. Train the trainer, personal development, public speaking, sales acumen etc.
9. Have the habit of keeping a pen and a writing pad handy because ideas come in the form of flashes. The smallest pen is bigger and better than the biggest brain!
10. Make sure at every point in time you are reading a book. If you spend 20 minutes reading daily, for 52 weeks you would have consumed 1,000,000 words (of wisdom)!
11.Stay away from television as much as possible. You can watch educational channels. Men with big TV sit in front of them to watch men with big library.
12 Put control over your mouth, never say evil of any man, what you are not certain of should not be said. Say good of all men!
13. Always show appreciation for any good deed you received.
14. Always help someone in need.
15. Live a debt free life. What you can’t pay cash for is not your size!
16. Give out loans that you can part with as gift, so that you don’t destroy your business and relationship.
17.Create multiple source of income.
18. Save at least 10 percent of your income.
19. Invest a portion of your income. And be patient to see it grow. If what you have in your hands is not good to be called a harvest then it’s a seed, sow it!
20. Keep a good financial record of all income and expenses, so you won’t ask later “where did my money go?”
21. Be involved in community service e.g. Control traffic, free lesson class for students etc.
22. Keep getting better on your daily goals and dream, develop yourself on them and make sure you get to the top 10% of your industry.
23. Make sure you engage in exercise. It keeps your brain alert and your body fit to enjoy your success.
24. Pray often, and know that for every success, there is a stronger being that made it possible.

 

 

 

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