I had a misunderstanding one night with my wife. We were exchanging words,but hers was the loudest,she lamba GBst me,insulted my head and Holy Moses,finished me with her mouth,she was even saying she hate me with a passion,she regreted the day she even fall in love with me. I was moved to beat her that night,but I remember the words of my father,”DO NOT EVER BEAT YOUR WIFE NO MATTER THE PROVOCATION.” There are are lot of punishment you can give her and will hurt her. I wanted to take a walk,but it was night. I absolve the pains of the insults,we slept. The following morning,she came and knelt down,apologised and we move on. After then,I told her if not for my fathers advice I adhered to,I should have beating her mercillesly. She also told me,she was expecting a beating and she had kept “Tabarya”(Pistle) that she will used to hit me in the head had it been I beat her. My people,na the biggest pistle of the house. Na dead be dat oooooo! She will be arrested and my family is gone because one of us doesn’t have patience and devil will be rejoicing.
As a husband and a father, you need to be patient and exhibit a lot of maturity. Do not react to every provocation from your wife. If you react to everything that your wife does, you w
ill almost kill her with beating. I understand that women have sharp mouth. They can insult you and abuse you with their mouth. A woman can push you to the wall. Sometimes you should ignore some of her attitudes and just keep quiet. A woman’s attitude can force a pastor to beat his wife unconsciously. That is why a husband must be mature both in mind and in age. That is also the reason why a woman must consider the age and the maturity of the man she wants to marry. Marriage is not for boys. Not because you have seen one boy with a house and car you just feel,this is my man. It may be rosy now,but when the storms comes,can he bear it? Some men cannot be patient enough,they can’t bear insults and some men grew up seeing how their mothers were maltreatin their father and he had sworn,he will never allow that in his marriage. If you marry such a man,very soon,they will dig your grave. That’s why in courtship,a woman must check out all the traces of anger in her man,is he hot tempered,how did he react to issues? Can he protect me? This and many more should be observed.
A troublsome woman can send a husband to jail and can caused a man to be enemies to neighbours. Women must also learn to be obedient at home,winning arguments doesn’t make you wise. Some women can so nag nag and nag. A man in my office doesn’t close from work at 5 o’clock we closed. He will wait till almost 8pm before going home,until I aasked him one day his reasons,before he told me of his nagging wife. Why should a man be afraid of coming home because of a wife one marry? She has turn the house to a battlefield,if that man is overcome by temptation,he will get another woman and the problems compounded simpLy because a nagging wife push him.
Patience is the key,simpLe “sorry,please,its ok can settle all disputes,but we found them had to say them.
If you have fear of God,you won’t insult your husband and you won’t beat your wife.
May our homes be an example of others to emulate